you are amazing grace. thanks
you have absolutely no reason to be afraid!!
hsv1 orally is transmitted through romantic type kisses. you don't transmit it as an adult through sharing food or drinks. soap and water easily kills the virus too so no reason to be afraid of using utensils anywhere!
http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_learn_oralherpes.cfm has terrific, down to earth info on oral herpes to better educate yourself.
grace