living with type 2

[steveo776]

so i was slightly wondering what to do, the people had sex during the time after i got it havent complained of symptoms so should i tell em any one and get that huge amount of hate that will come with it? morally since they arnt having an out break or their boyfriend hasnt im pretty sure they are in the clear but who knows.

its been almost 11 months since my last out break and 1 year 8 months since i acquired it. i dont even have mild symptoms so i would assume im now just a shedder and randomly infectious with no clue of it happening  

so is it morally wrong to have sex with people using protection and not tell them. the way i see it is i now have to tell every person every time and watch them walk away from like wow just dodged a bullet on that one which just sucks. i slightly wish i didnt know so i could be morals ambiguous about it cause i didnt know for sure. .

ugh any advice maybe i gota go to a herpes dating site.

and what are the odds of getting type 1 as well i heard its possible but rare

[steveo776]

btw ill totally mention after insurance it was 8.60 for me to pay if i didnt have it would of been around 50

[steveo776]

yeah its been since august actually we still keep in touch, but in maybe november  or so she said something but hasnt since so

[gracefromHHP]

good place to get your testing done :)

if it's been more than a few months since this partner, I wouldn't bother bringing it up.

[steveo776]

i live in Washington state so i got it sent to UW its pretty clear

im just wondering if i should tell my one friend who i think i might of given it to or not she had one out break and never had any further ones and her boy friend shows no signs. they plan to get married too and have a kid so its like at this point if damage was done thats the extent of it

[gracefromHHP]

was it a blood test? if so, I'll gladly take a look at your results to make sure you don't need additional confirmatory testing.

[steveo776]

yeah type 2 only

yeah i really regret getting it i got it from an 18 year old girl and to b honest i dont think she fully knew but guys she did said she had it after the fact so... i dunno shes a terrible person who lies alot. whats beat is its suppose to be harder from getting it from girls i didnt have sex with her for very long either ..

[gracefromHHP]

did you ever get a + test result to know your status?

grace

[Lou00]

You're not obliged to tell partners about having herpes, whether you do so or not is totally up to you and what you think is right. But in my opinion, I'd be pretty angry if someone I slept with decided not to tell me he was infected, even if he wasn't experiencing symptoms at the time and I didn't end up catching it, it's still putting someone at risk theoretically. I think it should be their choice to decide whether they are willing to go ahead and have sex you, not yours. If they walk away then let them, if they decide to stay then you know they think you're worth it. But yeah, basically I think it would be morally wrong.. I'm still pissed off at a guy who had genital warts which cleared up 4 years before he slept with me and didn't tell me about it prior to us having sex (which was just once) as i know the virus stays in your system indefinitely after the physical signs clear. But that's just me haha, just giving you a female's opinion. And no you're not gonna start having more outbreaks if you sleep with a HSV-2 positive woman, from what I've read (which is a lot), the virus doesn't work like that.

[steveo776]

oh my biggest question really is

if i tried dating someone with type-2 will they cause me to out break ? will coming into contact with people with it make it come out? im pretty happy that i dont have out breaks any more and dont want to start that cycle again and should i take medications to fight if im gona have sex with anyone ? while using protection

and does this mean i shouldnt give oral?