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my boyfriend is vary scared and refuses to touch me.
i have recently found out i have herpes type 1 and 2, so i automatically had to tell my boyfriend. he got checked and he didn't have it. but now he refuses to even kiss me even when i don't have any cold sores or anything, and it is uncontrolled with Valtrex, i told him that if we are vary careful, and if we use a condom and are safe. that the chances of him getting it are slim. and he cant get type 2 from kissing me. i just need something to prove to him that things will be ok. please help me. thank you.
A few places to look for some help.
The below site is a great resource. Terri Warren has a wonderful book out that you can order off amazon that talks about Herpes. The site is her clinic. She is also the Herpes Expert on these forums (Expert Area you pay to post in.)
http://westoverheights.com
American Social Health Association has a great site for resources as well. The STD Experts here at MedHelp are on the Board of Directors.
http://www.ashastd.org/
Now, chances are your boyfriend has kissed someone with HSV-1 (Cold Sores) already. HSV-1 is present in about 50% of the Adult US Population. So he may kiss someone in the future.
HSV-2 is controlled well with antiviral therapy. I am looking for the stats but I believe its like 2% per year risk with antivirial therapy. I am going to get the stat when I find it and post it here. Otherwise you should search the Expert forums.
Feel free to have him post questions here as well.
The below site is a great resource. Terri Warren has a wonderful book out that you can order off amazon that talks about Herpes. The site is her clinic. She is also the Herpes Expert on these forums (Expert Area you pay to post in.)
http://westoverheights.com
American Social Health Association has a great site for resources as well. The STD Experts here at MedHelp are on the Board of Directors.
http://www.ashastd.org/
Now, chances are your boyfriend has kissed someone with HSV-1 (Cold Sores) already. HSV-1 is present in about 50% of the Adult US Population. So he may kiss someone in the future.
HSV-2 is controlled well with antiviral therapy. I am looking for the stats but I believe its like 2% per year risk with antivirial therapy. I am going to get the stat when I find it and post it here. Otherwise you should search the Expert forums.
Feel free to have him post questions here as well.
There are many posts you can show him, if that would help I'm not sure.
Couple quick points:
Most people have it and just don't know and so he's taking a risk with the majority of people...
With antiviral suppression the chances are quite low for transmission. Again check all of the posts on this...
It's going to be tough at first for him but it will surprise you how easy it gets after you discuss what's bothering him.
Couple quick points:
Most people have it and just don't know and so he's taking a risk with the majority of people...
With antiviral suppression the chances are quite low for transmission. Again check all of the posts on this...
It's going to be tough at first for him but it will surprise you how easy it gets after you discuss what's bothering him.
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