primary outbreak and transmission questions

[tes77]

How do you know if you are having a primary outbreak or a recurrence? I've heard that in a primary outbreak, the symptoms are quite pronounced. However, being  a female and having had irritating yeast infections before, I'm wondering if what I thought was a yeast infection was actually an outbreak. However, I never had clusters of blisters before like I did just recently. Also, the subject of transmission is just so confusing. Some sources will tell you that you usually get your first outbreak within 2-14 days after transmission, others will tell you that you can get it months or years after transmission. If you have sex with somebody and have an outbreak a week later, is it safe to assume that that person transmitted the virus? Or should you also try to notify the person you had sex with three months back? This is all so confusing.

[gracefromHHP]

don't eat corn on the cob either on the first or 2nd dates - learned that lesson a few years ago...he he he

Yep even us old broads still have to deal with dating sometimes ;)  The older you get, the more baggage we all carry around. At least I can control my herpes with a pill or two a day - not that easy to control ex's and kids and bad habits and debt etc.  It's never as easy as boy meets girl, boy and girl fall head over heels and live happily ever after :(

grace

[tes77]

106?? Sounds biblical, though I can relate to the feeling. Oh the horror of eating greenery in front of a guy for the first time. There's just no good way. I guess your guy could be a keeper though as he seems to like his women au natural. Glad you got the chance to dazzle him again. Thanks for the story.

note to self: if and when there's a 2nd date, stay away from cruciferous vegetables.

[gracefromHHP]

Well I'm 106 and dating still isn't easy - and not for anything that has to do with my herpes!!!  I've been dating someone new for about 6 weeks now - our first date - I really was just meeting him to get it over with ( we had met online on a dating site ) and so I show up with my hair still damp for starters and I"m half asleep because I had only slept 3 hours after work that day and then I ordered a salad and broccoli. I'm sitting there with lettuce stuck in my teeth at one point and then I get freakin broccoli stuck in my teeth later on in the meal. I'm sitting there trying to keep my lips closed and suck all the produce out of my teeth without looking like a goof....lol.  I guess he didn't mind the green in my teeth - we are still going out :)  Of course up until the first face to face date I thought he had 2 kids, found out it's actually 4.  I might not be right in the head myself...he he he  Needless to say the 2nd date - I gussied myself up a bit better...he he he  

Glad your date went well :)

grace

[tes77]

Thanks for the reply. It was good to be reminded that I still need to be worried about a guys STD status and not just worry about how mine might affect him. Does this dating thing ever get less complicated?

[waringblender]

:o)  

I don't recall ever telling a guy on the first date. I just want the first date to be ... well, first datey. :)

He doesn't need to know about it until the two of you are ready to have sex. But you should also ask him if he's had anything and has he ever been tested.

[tes77]

You are sooo right. I'm kinda jumping the gun here. Thanks for bringing me down to earth. Anyway, just got in and had a good time. Herpes was not a topic of conversation. Ha ha. I appreciate the reality check.