Do I deserve to be scolded for contracting low risk HPV?

[Leigh17]

I recently told my partner that HPV came back during my PAP SMEAR and he constantly brings up my sexual history as a reason to it and makes me feel horrible.  A part of me feels I deserve his repremand because  I've had unprotected sex more times than him so he automatically puts me down for my careless behavior.  I feel like I deserve it, hence contracting hpv and that it could have been something more harmful to me.  But I would like to be able to defend myself too.  He says he's never had unprotected sex more than twice and that ALL my HPV occurences have come from my unprotected sex with others.  I think that from what I have researched, men don't show nearly as many signs of HPV as woman so it appears that ITS MY FAULT.  Or that HPV is so common 80% of people get it in their lifetime or have it now? (I forget which statistic is correct) but THAT it shows less symptoms in men.  Or that hpv is easily detected when women get their paps since it can cause cancer.  Should I deserve him scolding me? Should he feel like the victim of me, meaning he is NOW at risk of low/high risk HPV? Do I deserve him making me feel bad about my previous sex life? and him asking "why were you so stupid!"?  I don't know.  I thought many STD's are spread through skin-to-skin contact?  So could he have contracted them just as easily even if he used condoms with his previous partners?  I feel like I should have some sort of defense against his arguments that HPV is not solely my fault and could be potentially his!  I hate to point fingers so I feel he shouldn't either.

[Tiba]

You do not deserve this. This is horrible for him to treat you this way! I believe I have hpv... It's so common that all my doctor said is that most cases of "cancer cells" usually comes from hpv....That was it. It has never been brought up again at any of my yearly visits and that was 5years ago. You re not alone. Most of us have this unfortunately..... Lots of luck with your situation.

[tooks]

your boyfriend sounds like an *******...... i recently went thru the same kind of issues with my partner but we have been together for nearly two years and she understand how and why i got hpv.but most importantly she doesnt hold it over my head as a way to belittle me or make me feel bad. i was young and wild and careless. still, she chose to be with me and stick with me knowing what she was putting her self at risk with. my only suggestion would be to take his sorry *** to the doctor and if it turns out that he doesnt have it to tell him to either get lost and he doesnt have to worry about the risk of catching hpv, OR if he chooses to stick with you he needs to let go of the past and just be with you hpv and all. you dont need someone pointing fingers and making you feel bad, its bad enough that you (just like me) are fighting a virus like this.

[alexdelong]

Your boyfrend is acting like an ***.

You are right, HPV is extremely common. 75-90% of us will have at least one strain sometime in our lifetime. It is possible that your boyfriend has been infected previously, or was the person who brought the virus into the relationship. Condoms offer good protection, but they aren;t perfect.

If we know we have HPV, particularily genital warts, we should do our best to protect our partners. If we don't know about an HPV infection, than there shouldn't be any blame. HPV is a common virus that is rarely serious, and you definately don't deserve to be brought down because you have contracted it!