Horrible Decision

[Squirmy70]

I posted this question in the std forum, but had a specific question for this one. I made a stupid decision to accept "extras" during a massage and received unprotected oral sex from the female masseuse. This was brief (30 seconds). I have been monogamous for 16 years. I am getting checked foe gonorrhea and herpes, but am now concerned about acquiring hpv and transmitting this to my wife?  

[mkh9]

Well, best to move on. Just try to get tested and get treated if you need it. I'm not saying one thing or another. I am here to answer questions and to help guide you where I can.
mkh9

[Squirmy70]

Thanks for your advice. i feel horrible about what I've done. But am looking to do the right thing and make sure I'm okay and don't pass anything on to her. It so wasn't worth it.

[mkh9]

Oh you asked what does the age of your wife have to do with it? If you did acquire HPV and she got it. If she was under 30 you wouldn't have to worry because someone under 30 isn't likely to get cervical cancer from HPV. Over 30 you are more likely to get cervical cancer from a high risk HPV type. But I don't think I would really worry about that. I think I gave you too much information. I wouldn't worry about that too much. It is good to be informed about these things though.
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[mkh9]

CT is chlamydia trachomatis and is the number one STD. It is more common than GC. It is passed orally, and genitally. So, usually they test for both when the test for GC. But best to test for CT if you are getting tested for GC. All of these are less likely to get orally than through genital sex but you can. If the women (your wife gets it she can have no symptoms yet get damages to her female organs. Good news is there is a one dose treatment usually for these two bacteria. Bad news is they are becoming resistant. GC though is less common in straight people so it is really CT you have to worry about. As for HPV you can transmit it and get it through oral sex but there is no oral test for it. So, that is just the way it is. You can ask the doctor if they have come up with one yet but my husband works on this test and I'm pretty sure there isn't. Herpes, you can only get that if she had a cold sore when she gave you oral. Hope this helps.
mkh9

[Squirmy70]

Thanks foe your response. what is CT? My wife is 38. What kind of difference does that make? Also the nurse at planned parenthood said not to worry about hpv or herpes
Does this sound right?

[mkh9]

Since you are getting tested for GC and herpes, You should also get tested for CT. They probably will do a duo test for both. Also, you might think of getting tested for HIV. Although there is almost NO RISK of getting it the way you did. This is what the CDC says. They said it is not zero but almost no risk. As for HPV you could only get it if she happen to have it at the time. Usually, if the person is under 30 people slough off the HPV and it comes and goes. So she may not have had it. There is no oral test for this anyway. If your wife is under 30 she would probably get rid of it too. Also, she gets annual PAP smears or every 3 years and it would come up either negative on the PAP smear (microscopic test) even if it was positive for HPV (genetic test) . The PAP smear is more important. Hope this makes sense. I wouldn't really worry about HIV unless the woman had sores in her mouth or bad teeth. That is how you get it (blood exchange from a sore). But I did want you to be aware of it.  

[veryworried420]

The odds of getting it via oral sex are very, very low. Not zero. You can't be tested for it and you should not worry about it. Avg time to get symptoms are 3-6 months but do realize that it is silly to worry about this. Besides if your wife gets yearly paps and HPV tests, she will know if something is wrong. But the chances are she will never aquire it from your brief encounter.