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How to tell a partner you have HPV?

I just recently found out I have HPV.  My partner and I have been having an on and off relationship.  And I have not been monogamous.  Our relationship is going through some rough times but we're trying to get through it.  And I we have had sexual intercourse.  I'm scared to tell him that I have this and that it may be possible that he has contracted it too.  How could I tell him that I have HPV?  And is there a possible chance that we might survive our relationship?
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Condoms only reduce the risk of spreading HPV...it is not 100% preventative even while using a condom.
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Ok so I have a new boyfriend & we are sexualy active & I do have high risk for hpv & I seriously don't know how to tell him I've only had sex with him with condoms & I've been reading alot of website and everyone says something different so I need to know from someone that can relate , does condoms help for hpv high risk? Or did I already infect my boyfriend & if so how do I tell him all this ?
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relax...coupla deep breaths....it will all fall in2 place.Early detection and treatment is key!Within the past two years i've gone thru many paps,dysplasia with no HPV,then HPV six months later,colps biopsies LEEP and more paps post LEEP!next pap 8-25 to see if i can go a year minus pap every 4 mos.!
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Thank you guys for your responses.  I don't know as of yet how serious the hpv is but I am worried.  I have not scheduled an appt for a colposcopy yet but will after my "welcome visit" to the gynocologist.  I do hope I've caught the signs early on.  And yes I have spoke with my partner and he seems to be dealing with things well.  He's with me no matter what and is willing to help me get through this ordeal.  
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Superstar,
Generally, if your gyno has to do a colposcopy, they're most likely going to have to do a biopsy as well. Chances are you do have a high-risk strain of HPV if you have abnormal cell-growth on your cervix.. However, if you're diagnosed with mild cervical dysplasia, you'll probably be alright without much treatment at all. The next stage of cell growth is moderate to severe cervical dysplasia, which is what I have, and it doesn't "have" to be treated, but because the likelihood of it turning into cancer is so much greater, the doctor will (hopefully) treat you with some sort of procedure to remove the cells. Either way, you probably do have a high risk strain, but its not as awful as it sounds- as long as they catch it early.. sounds like you probably have though. so thats good. :)

In terms of your guy and whatnot.. I'm not sure if you told him or not yet, but it probably is a good idea that he knows. Apparently, HPV is also one of those things that you can get early on from someone and it wont show up in a pap for a while.. or at least thats what I've heard. I think I probably got mine when I was upstate in college.. but it didn't show up until like a year later.. unless.. eh, i dont know. Stupid HPV.

anyway, I hope everything goes/went well.
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if ur getting a colposcopy u have high risk HPV on ur cervix!when they do a colp they biopsy the tissue removed from the cervix!
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Im not sure as of yet.  However, I have spoken to my partner about it.  I'm currently in the process of getting a copascomy done.  Hopefully, there's no need for a biopsy.
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do u have genital warts-low risk?or high risk hpv on cervix?
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