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Should I marry a man with HPV?
Hello,
I'm thinking of getting married to a man. However, he recently told me that he found a small wart in his genital area (more specifically somewhere between the testicle and thigh) and hence he has come to the conclusion that he has a form of HPV. I understand that some strains of HPV can lead to cancer in women but not in men. What risk am I taking if I decide to marry him and have unprotected intercourse? Is there a chance for his immune system to be able to clear the virus within some time period? If it is cleared, does that mean that this is not contagious anymore and that I can no longer contract HPV from him? Also, I've heard that the wart-causing HPV strains are usually the non-cancerous ones. My question is, if he were to ever give me HPV, would that stay the same with me ie: that wart-causing strain would only cause warts and not cancer? I really hope you can help. I would really like to marry him but at the same time I'm just a bit worried about the repercussions of contracting HPV and the fact that it may lead to cancer. Thank you very much.
I'm thinking of getting married to a man. However, he recently told me that he found a small wart in his genital area (more specifically somewhere between the testicle and thigh) and hence he has come to the conclusion that he has a form of HPV. I understand that some strains of HPV can lead to cancer in women but not in men. What risk am I taking if I decide to marry him and have unprotected intercourse? Is there a chance for his immune system to be able to clear the virus within some time period? If it is cleared, does that mean that this is not contagious anymore and that I can no longer contract HPV from him? Also, I've heard that the wart-causing HPV strains are usually the non-cancerous ones. My question is, if he were to ever give me HPV, would that stay the same with me ie: that wart-causing strain would only cause warts and not cancer? I really hope you can help. I would really like to marry him but at the same time I'm just a bit worried about the repercussions of contracting HPV and the fact that it may lead to cancer. Thank you very much.
I saw some little warts but I don’t know it’s hpv or not I will marry next year Jun I scared of I had hpv is it dangrouse for my partner if I had vaccine it’s will protect my partner plz help me ***@****
Hi, hala404,
They can test men for HPV but they don't have established guidelines. So, it would be better for you to get tested. However, they don't generally test women between 18 and 30 because 50% have HPV and they get rid of it because they have a good immune system and it just comes and goes. Only after 30 and a abnormal Pap smear they are supposed to test you. But I've never been tested because I have always had negative Pap smears. They are only recently doing the HPV testing in addion to the PAP. If you are negative by HPV testing you can get the vaccine but it only covers about 70% of all high risk strains. So, you still to get PAP smears no matter what. It also depends on sexual activity. If you were someone that had multiple partners or a Positive Pap they do the testing more often. If you are both monogamous and have negative PAPs then they test you about every three years for HPV. If you have been normal with your Pap smears I wouldn't worry about it so much. Even if your fiance was positive either one of you would clear the virus if you both are younger that 30 or most of the time this is the case.
mkh9
They can test men for HPV but they don't have established guidelines. So, it would be better for you to get tested. However, they don't generally test women between 18 and 30 because 50% have HPV and they get rid of it because they have a good immune system and it just comes and goes. Only after 30 and a abnormal Pap smear they are supposed to test you. But I've never been tested because I have always had negative Pap smears. They are only recently doing the HPV testing in addion to the PAP. If you are negative by HPV testing you can get the vaccine but it only covers about 70% of all high risk strains. So, you still to get PAP smears no matter what. It also depends on sexual activity. If you were someone that had multiple partners or a Positive Pap they do the testing more often. If you are both monogamous and have negative PAPs then they test you about every three years for HPV. If you have been normal with your Pap smears I wouldn't worry about it so much. Even if your fiance was positive either one of you would clear the virus if you both are younger that 30 or most of the time this is the case.
mkh9
Thanks! I haven't been tested for HPV yet. I heard that there's no diagnostic testing available for men when it comes to HPV. I'm not too sure if this is accurate though. I'm now contemplating getting the vaccine but I'm just not sure if it'll be able to protect me for the rest of my life. Does having a wart in the genital region always mean its HPV? What else could it be?
Thanks for providing me with all this info. I appreciate. I haven't engaged in any form of sexual activity as we both wish to incorporate this aspect of a relationship only after marriage. My only concern was whether he'd be able to clear it and even if he were to clear it whether or not I'd still be able to contract the virus. Let's hope not..
Assuming you have had safe sex with him, how do you know that you have not already been exposed? A condom doesn't cover much genital skin and is estimated to only be 70% effective. If you were sexually active before him, how do you know that you were not the one that infected him? Clean pap tests do not always mean it isn't dormant in you.
90% of all infected "clear" it within 6-24 months and at some point in this range, people are not infectious at that time. There is debate on whether the virus literally leaves the body or not. Since men cannot be tested, they have no idea when or if they are not infectious. Average is 6-12 months. If you were to be infected, it would be the same strain as him. The low risk strains do not lead to cancer. Since so many are already exposed (3 or more partners), it is assumed 85% of the sexually active adults have it (half do not know it) or had it. Your questions are valid but if you love someone this bug should not matter, IMO.
90% of all infected "clear" it within 6-24 months and at some point in this range, people are not infectious at that time. There is debate on whether the virus literally leaves the body or not. Since men cannot be tested, they have no idea when or if they are not infectious. Average is 6-12 months. If you were to be infected, it would be the same strain as him. The low risk strains do not lead to cancer. Since so many are already exposed (3 or more partners), it is assumed 85% of the sexually active adults have it (half do not know it) or had it. Your questions are valid but if you love someone this bug should not matter, IMO.
Hi and sure you can marry him if you trust him and love him. Also, you are right that the HPV types that cause genital warts don't cause cancer. Or, there is no evidence to support that. It is more for looks that anything if you got it. A lot of times these things can resolve themselves. You can get the HPV vaccine if you haven't had it yet. Have either of you been tested for HPV? If not you both should get tested as it may not even be HPV that he has. So you wouldn't have to worry about it. If you are in your twenties the high risk HPV usually clears on its own until you get into your 30's and 40's etc. You both should probably get tested for all STD's as these can be problematic too. This way you can start your marriage with a clean slate. Hope this helps.
mkh9
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