Well, where should I begin? I suppose I should start by saying that I briefly dated a girl who has had moderate/severe cervical dysplasia. We were intimate with each other just once. We engaged in both vaginal and oral sex. I, of course, did wear a condom. This same girl has only recently gone back for a follow-up, so I'm still waiting to hear what her current status is. I know she had this when I dated her six months ago because she hasn't dated anyone since me (and vice versa).
Here's my problem; I've met someone new, and she is a wonderful girl. It's the first time since I was with the other woman that I've found someone who I think I might have a real chance with, and I'm ecstatic about it. Thing is, I've been wondering what the odds are that I contracted HPV from the first woman. I've also been wondering how to explain this to the new person that I've started dating. Is it possible to give her a rough idea of what the chances are that I have HPV? Is it possible that the first girl simply had a false positive? What are the odds that I could end up passing this on (assuming I do have it) to this new girl? I've also read that the body typically "clears" the infection within two years time, but does that mean that once it has been cleared, you will no longer be able to transmit it to someone else? What is the common reaction of women when a man informs them of something like this? I just don't know how to approach this. In fact, as much as I hate to admit, I'm very scared, and a part of me almost wants to walk away now because I'm afraid that I could put this new girl in a terribly difficult situation, and I don't want to do that to her, even if it means giving up what I really want the most (a relationship with her). I should point out that she is 33 years old (I'm 26 myself), so I suppose that she has had conversations with her own doctor about HPV, and maybe she already understands it? I don't know. I'm not sure how to handle to this. Would you be kind enough to provide me with some guidance on this please?