Did I give my husband hpv ?

[Shimyhal]

Hi,

About 3 months ago I discovered a bump on my vagina and didn’t think it was anything serious until I got several of them and after telling my husband about it and being very frightened to go to the hospital I finally had the courage to go to the hospital and without a test the dermatologist told me it was genital warts, I was very depressed and insecure about it but I never had physical relationships with anyone else but my husband. Before my husband there were 2 guys but that was over a year ago and my husband and I have been sleeping with each other without a condom for a year and a half. As we were doing long distance and we finally met I had told him about the genital warts and we agreed this was it and we both have gotten it and didn’t want to blame one another. He didn’t have any symptoms at all. The first day we met we had sex and then when he went to shower he saw a genital wart on his genital area.


Does this mean I have it to him? My husband is accusing me of cheating and I have been so depressed I genuinely want to kill myself as this is making me feel hopeless.  I haven’t ever cheated on him and in all honesty he has cheated on me several times and even seen escorts in the past, I don’t want to blame him but I don’t want him to blame me because I haven’t cheated on him and I love him a lot and care about him.

Please can you tell me if I was the one who gave it to my husband? Is it possible for him to get symptoms In a few hours or was he previously infected and just didn’t show symptoms?

The last message he sent me was “ SELFISH *****, i know you did tbh. i didn’t have it before, then i had sex with you while you had it. and i got it it’s simple maths”


Please reply soon I’m very anxious and depressed.


Thank you in advance

[cineamoc]

HPV can be dormant for months or years after you get infection. It's impossible to tell you or your husband got it first.

With good immune system, the infection will clear within two years. So be cheerful and take care yourself

[DumbDecisions2017]

Honestly, it's hard to tell where HPV came from if you have multiple partners because it can be dormant for a while.  However, based on your post and your cheating husband, I would guess he gave it to you rather than the other way around.

I'm going to give you some advice you probably won't take and don't want to hear, but your husband sounds like a real *ssh*le.  You deserve better then someone calling you out of your name when he's the one who has messed around.  

It doesn't matter where it came from, you need to take care of yourself and stop worrying about him.  

Good luck.

[Shimyhal]

Someone please answer !!!