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hpv and future relationship
i was intimate with this girl whom I knew for sometime. well we had sex and right after we were done and I mean literally after we were done she told me she had HPV. Not really knowing what the hell that was I continued having sex with her. One time, the first being unprotected, I noticed tiny lil bumps a few weeks later, almost like microscopic blisters. Went to the doc, and they said they were HPV cells. I was like ****. How could someone be so naive; myself included to just willingly put someone else at risk. I read a lot of positive outcomes with only being one outbreak and your body fighting it off, but my battle is more a psychological one. Now I am seeing this girl whom I've grown very fond of and am scared to tell her. I have not slept with her, as I want to rely on a relationship with substance and not sex. I haven't slept with her because I don't want her to go through what I went through. I want her to make that decision, one I didn't really have. I just don't know how to tell her or how to bring it up. I mean who would want to hold one to someone with some excess baggage per say. please help. I fell like I'm fighting a lost cause
Hey there : )
First off I want to tell you that you are not unworthy! Or "damaged goods." That's typically the stigma in our society of people who have STDS or mental illnesses. Second, 3 out of every 4 people have some form of HPV, that's alot of people! It is the MOST common STD. So it's no wonder that it spreads like wildfire. But there is something I would like to clarify, while it is a good probability that it will clear up if you have a healthy immune system, HPV, depending on the type can turn into Cervical cancer, genital warts, anal or penile cancer. So make sure your partner is aware of this. And aware of the fact that, just like herpes, HPV can be contracted with condoms on also (probably also adds to the high HPV rate) since HPV can affect the area around the genitals as well that isn't covered by a condom. You should still always wear condoms to lower the risk of HPV and HSV as well as HIV and other STDs and unwanted pregnancy.
First off I want to tell you that you are not unworthy! Or "damaged goods." That's typically the stigma in our society of people who have STDS or mental illnesses. Second, 3 out of every 4 people have some form of HPV, that's alot of people! It is the MOST common STD. So it's no wonder that it spreads like wildfire. But there is something I would like to clarify, while it is a good probability that it will clear up if you have a healthy immune system, HPV, depending on the type can turn into Cervical cancer, genital warts, anal or penile cancer. So make sure your partner is aware of this. And aware of the fact that, just like herpes, HPV can be contracted with condoms on also (probably also adds to the high HPV rate) since HPV can affect the area around the genitals as well that isn't covered by a condom. You should still always wear condoms to lower the risk of HPV and HSV as well as HIV and other STDs and unwanted pregnancy.
Hello. I faced this problem too. I got HPV the guy didn't tell me so I didn't have a choice. When I met my new boyfriend I wanted him to be able to decide for himself so I told him. I was so nervouse when I told him, my voice was shaking, i thought he would judge me and that would be the end, and I wouldn't of blamed him because of the sterotype of people with STDs.
I think you should tell her, especially if you have only recently been diagnosed with HPV because that means your immune system probably hasn't caged it yet. Establish how she feels about you first, if its the real deal, because you wouldn't want to tell someone who didn't really care about you as they probably wouldn't stick around. Make sure she has an understanding of the subject so she dosen't jump to conclusions when she hears the words "Sexually transmitted disease". Also, use a condom to stop the risk of her catching it. Then if you venture more into a relationship and say, fall inlove, you can decide together wether you want to carry on using a condom, or risk her catching it and use another form of contraceptive like the pill.
You probably feel like damaged goods like I did but you are not. Maybe by telling this girl you care about, she can then be a shoulder to cry on and can help you come to terms with what you have. I know when I told my boyfriend it felt like a huge weight had been lifted, and I finally had someone to confide in about it.
Make sure you tell her face to face, ease her into the subject. Explain the night with that girl, how you didn't realise and then she told you she had HPV, and you don't want her to go through what you went through. Then explain the facts about HPV - how common it is, how it usually clears in 2 years and how low risk HPV isn't dangerous. You never know, its so common maybe she has it!
Good luck!
I think you should tell her, especially if you have only recently been diagnosed with HPV because that means your immune system probably hasn't caged it yet. Establish how she feels about you first, if its the real deal, because you wouldn't want to tell someone who didn't really care about you as they probably wouldn't stick around. Make sure she has an understanding of the subject so she dosen't jump to conclusions when she hears the words "Sexually transmitted disease". Also, use a condom to stop the risk of her catching it. Then if you venture more into a relationship and say, fall inlove, you can decide together wether you want to carry on using a condom, or risk her catching it and use another form of contraceptive like the pill.
You probably feel like damaged goods like I did but you are not. Maybe by telling this girl you care about, she can then be a shoulder to cry on and can help you come to terms with what you have. I know when I told my boyfriend it felt like a huge weight had been lifted, and I finally had someone to confide in about it.
Make sure you tell her face to face, ease her into the subject. Explain the night with that girl, how you didn't realise and then she told you she had HPV, and you don't want her to go through what you went through. Then explain the facts about HPV - how common it is, how it usually clears in 2 years and how low risk HPV isn't dangerous. You never know, its so common maybe she has it!
Good luck!
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