I'm interested in knowing where you got your information on HPV and viral shedding. I have never heard of viral shedding in HPV. HSV, yes. But HPV? Never read about it.
Well you may not like my comment but please do read them. If your partner had high risk HPV ( forms 16, 18, 31 etc), they don't go away in two years or so. Actually most of the virus infection if you get once will stay with you throughout your life. HPV causes cancer as they stay for longer times and don't go away all the times, though they do go away in most cases. That's one reason if someone has high risk HPV, that person has to get herself tested every year even after they get it treated or it disappears itself for at least 3 years or so. Can oral sex transmit it is controversial. It is hard to be all careful. if you fingered her and then touched your vagina afterwords you may get infected, it will be the same if your partner does the same. In virus infection there are certain times when infected person can transmit it more than other times. It is called virus shedding. HPV virus infection can not be detected precisely right away , but please, do visit your primary physician for annual pap smear test. This test is simple and can detect HPV infections early.
AND do get Gardasil innoculation. It is supposed to be effective even after infection in some percent of cases.
Genital HPV transmission is less efficient in lesbians than in heterosexuals and gay men.
Have you had any vaccination against HPV? Even if you have already contacted the strain she had (not too likely, since most infections would have cleared within 2 years), Gardasil would further protect you from some other popular HPV strains that you may get in the future, especially if you are bisexual (or, supposedly, if your partners are).