Hi, there are some threads here from people like yourself:
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/search/139?utf8=%26%23x2713%3B&query=alcohol
Although it's true, as you say, that searching for alcohol induced node pain always leads to Hodgkin's, in some of those long threads there are many examples of people having node pain and/or swelling over the curse of years, yet they do not have Hodgkin's.
Maybe your pain comes from vasodilation. Some vasodilate more strongly than others. Cancerous nodes usually aren't painful.
Also, as for your other symptoms, you might look into Post Viral Syndromes, Chronic Epstein Barr, CFS and other related conditions.