Keep the lines of communication open with them. Share with them that whole you want everyone from dipdos family to get to know her, it is a bit overwhelming. The only reflection on you is that YOU are the grown up and YOU are opening your arms to allow his family in when due to his behavior they know you don't have to.
It does reflect on you but in a positive way. You are willing to put aside the BS with him so she can know his side of the family. That is huge! You are showing that you are the better person and that he's the one with problems. I'd be nervous if in your shoes because I imagine its awkward but I'm sure it'll get easier as time passes. I commend you for how you are handling the situation.
Thanks girls!! I'm really trying to do the right thing.
I really commend u for doing this bc it shows that u arent just thinking about yourself u r doing the right thing for your daughter and she will see that once she is older and understands the situation its a great thing and a very selfless thing that u r doing :))