WIC bs

[Flickan]

Just calmed down enough to tell you guys what happened. Things are tight right now so we are getting help from WIC...not my proudest moment, but humbled. I had an appointment yesterday and Cady and I were weighed. I had to talk to their dietician. She had an intern with her which is fine by me.  We know Cady is on the small side....her doctor chalks it up to her being short like me. Because she isn't fitting a square peg we have to go in for weight checks occasionally. That back story being said- this dietician proceeded to tell me shame on me for pumping instead of keeping her on the breast 24/7 (I do both) and that I am a bad mom for putting my needs before my own which is jeopardizing my child's welfare. She even put her in their computer as high risk. I came home in tears (and not a crier). I've followed what is recommended for the amounts of food age should be getting and watching her cues to modify if necessary, all while trying to keep the balance not to overdo it with her GERD issue and was told I'm not feeding her enough. Seriously!?!?!

[thirdtimemum]

Well i don't know what wic is, we don't have that here, but Bailey was/is only a small baby too, and he is very well fed! Thats just his genes, and the way he is, all babies are different, and it doesn't mean they are malnourished or obese. My sister's baby is 8 weeks older than Bailey and he is HUGE But thats mostly because his father is a 130kg samoan! I on the other hand am only a small person, and my partner Rick is not a big man either, so its only natural we'd produce a smaller size baby. As long as they are healthy and content, who cares?

[Flickan]

The next closest is about 15-20 miles away.

[katngary143]

I signed up for wic when I was preggers and they asked if I was going to breast feed and I said yes and they were all boasting like yes that is the best thing blah blah to just breast feed bc your baby can get sick faster and blah ah I put the lady in her place and was all well I was breast feed until 2 months then I wasnt gaining weight but im fine and im never sick lol they lady didn't hve much to say uggh this topic is like nails on a chalk board..ok so like the babjes that get adopted obviously they are formula fed and thats alot of babies and pumping is great too that is one way your milk production stays up that wic office seems like peopke there arent educated lol can u go to a different one ?

[Flickan]

Thanks for letting me vent. Turns out that WIC in Alaska did the same thing with my sis in law with my niece. I'm thinking of talking to someone about her. If I could, is just walk away from the program.

[tomorrow264]

Pumping is just as good as actually breastfeeding. What about all the women who work full time and pump or moms that exclusively pump? Next time I'd politely tell her to go suck an egg lol. I think some of these people get some sort of god complex because they are put in a position of authority.

[Flickan]

That's where I am.  I guess the part that pissed me off is the way they said they were concerned and telling me that pumping is bad...basically she should either be on the breast or don't bother. I'll listen to my pediatrician for her and she isn't overly concerned either. She is in the 10th percentile..but someone has to be on the lower end just like someone has to be on the high end. I talked to a gal today who has a 6mo old wearing size 4 diapers. We aren't all numbers and cookie cutters. That part of the problem with the way we are today...and wonder why our kids are comparing themselves and ending up with low self esteem?? They're taught by programs and information like this NOT to be the round peg in a square world, but to do whatever it takes to be a square....

[tomorrow264]

11 lbs is toward the lower end of what a 3 month old should weigh but not to the point where I'd be concerned. What I feel is more important is how does she look. From pictures I've seen of her she looks healthy. I wouldn't let them get you too worried. If you wanted to try to get her to gain more you try adding 1/2oz to her feedings or adding an additional feeding. You can also increase the fat in your milk by adding more healthy fats to your diet. Like I said I wouldn't be overly concerned. Take what they say with a grain of salt because all they know is what some chart says a baby should weigh.

[katngary143]

I had wic for a little bit but been to lazy to cancel it I think the program is great and really helps out single moms I got approved for medicare or medical what through them and I didnt sign up for it they just gave it to me which is great bv my doctor takes it and u know its a pain finding good doctors..but gurl you are doing a great job with your baby..I feed Kendrick all the time. Im not going to follow the 3 to 4 hour rule if my baby is hungry im going to feed him..she will catch up on weighr don't feel discouraged. .when I was 2 montbs I was under weight people will always have negative opinions just laugh at them

[Flickan]

She is 11 lbs and hit 3 months on the 15th. She was born at 7lbs 14oz with a lot of water weight since I was on iv fluids for so long.

[Mizzztaylor]

I had the same experience with WIC. I had to take my daughter in for weight checks literally every week until she was 4 months old. WIC pulled that with me and I was so scared they were going to send a social worker after me. I decided it wasn't worth it. I was going back to work soon anyway and knew that I wouldn't be able to get WIC anymore anyway. I called them and told them I didn't want to be on it anymore and when the lady I was talking to asked why I said it was because I was already deeply concerned about my daughters weight, I was working with her pediatrician and following his instructions exactly, and the last thing I needed was to be harassed by people who don't know my daughter and her situation as well. That lady made a note in the computer that I was well informed and didn't need more information and I wasn't harassed again after that. I've heard a lot of similar stories from people. WIC is a great program and a great supplement but that seems to be one of the definite drawbacks.

[tomorrow264]

Thats bs! They are supposed to be there to help and support not makes moms feel bad. It doesn't matter how she's getting fed as long as she's getting fed. Unfortunately when you need help from these groups they are allowed to put their two cents in but it should still be done respectfully. I've never dealt with wic but have heard all sorts of horror stories.

What are Cady's stats now and at birth? How old is she exactly?

[tattoomommy03]

I was told the same thing by WIC. They told me ibwas feeding them way to much and putting them at risk for.obesity. i gave the woman a little.peice of my mind amd told them tjat i will feed them what they can eat. And that their dr was the only one to be giving me any advise on what is concidered to be right for them to eat. And that i wouldnt be taking their advise. Put me in as high risk because of that. I ended up.calling wic and complaining about their staff and what happened. And was told it wouldnt happenagain. But i did get told that i was hurtimg my babies because i stopped breastfeeding.
You are doing good flick. Pump all you want to. You know your baby and her need better than they do. If they didnt like the idea of pumping they wouldnt offer a breast pump tomothers to borrow. Throw.that in their faces.