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Bullying in Schools
Listening to the radio this morning I heard about a15 year old commited suicide because of bullying ..in thisschool and I guess most they have 'zero tolerance' meaning they cannot fight back with bullying, we wre told years ago in England you stood up to a bully, how can you if its not allowed what does a child do just 'Take It' Mant of you have children who are going through this or will be , what will you do if your child is at risk from Bullies and they are not allowed to retaliate?
In my experience, bullying is MUCH better now than when I was in school.
When I was in jr. high and high school bullying was horrible. I could even now come up with the names of kids who were treated mercilessly. Why no one in administration helped those kids, I don't understand. This one family had two sons, and they dressed the boys like nerds from the 50's, and this was the 70's. If you were going to purposely try to dress like a total geek for halloween, this is what you'd look like. Plaid straight leg pants, tucked in short sleeve dress shirt, slicked down hair, buddy holly glasses, black dress shoes and black socks. GADS. Where do you even buy clothing like that, I wonder. Those pants must have been 20 years old, there is no retail outlet that would have sold those slacks. It's like an extreme effort was made by the parents, especially the dad who was a weird cop, to make these boys the object of ridicule. Another girl was a little heavy and STUNK. She didn't brush her teeth, didn't wash her hair, didn't change her underwear, UGH she smelled so bad no one would sit near her because it would literally make you sick to your stomach every time she moved.
Where were the counselors or social workers here, to call the parents in and put a stop to this? So sad.
When I was in jr. high and high school bullying was horrible. I could even now come up with the names of kids who were treated mercilessly. Why no one in administration helped those kids, I don't understand. This one family had two sons, and they dressed the boys like nerds from the 50's, and this was the 70's. If you were going to purposely try to dress like a total geek for halloween, this is what you'd look like. Plaid straight leg pants, tucked in short sleeve dress shirt, slicked down hair, buddy holly glasses, black dress shoes and black socks. GADS. Where do you even buy clothing like that, I wonder. Those pants must have been 20 years old, there is no retail outlet that would have sold those slacks. It's like an extreme effort was made by the parents, especially the dad who was a weird cop, to make these boys the object of ridicule. Another girl was a little heavy and STUNK. She didn't brush her teeth, didn't wash her hair, didn't change her underwear, UGH she smelled so bad no one would sit near her because it would literally make you sick to your stomach every time she moved.
Where were the counselors or social workers here, to call the parents in and put a stop to this? So sad.
I think it IS worse today. My daughter was bullied all through middle school. I kept going in and talking to the teachers, principal, even the girls once because I knew them. Big mistake, that only made things worse! I told the teachers I was thinking of pulling her out and they kept saying no, she'd have to learn to stand up for herself and she'd just have this in any school I put her in. I wish I hadn't listened to them because she went downhill fast. She started hanging out with the kids who accepted her, the outcasts and they introduced her to a lot of scary things. I lost my sweet little girl for a few years there and instead had a depressed, angry child who was hurting herself. We had her in counseling for almost 2 years and did finally move her to a new school.
That helped but what really saved her was going back to her roots and coming back to God on a youth retreat. She's a different kid today. She's much happier, calmer and has a big heart and a lot of compassion now for others who are hurting because she's been there and understands.
I thank God every day for bringing my sweet daughter back to me but it greatly disturbs me to see so many great kids lost in all this bullying. Something must be done to put a stop to this. This should never be tolerated, ever. I think teachers and principals are not taking this seriously enough.
I know in our situation, the girls were "talked to" but never really punished. The thing is, they mostly did stuff when the teachers didn't see it so they felt like there wasn't much they could do. It was pretty frustrating as a parent to see all this.
I'm seriously thinking about homeschooling my youngest son. I don't want him to ever have to go through something like that. No child should ever have to go through that.
That helped but what really saved her was going back to her roots and coming back to God on a youth retreat. She's a different kid today. She's much happier, calmer and has a big heart and a lot of compassion now for others who are hurting because she's been there and understands.
I thank God every day for bringing my sweet daughter back to me but it greatly disturbs me to see so many great kids lost in all this bullying. Something must be done to put a stop to this. This should never be tolerated, ever. I think teachers and principals are not taking this seriously enough.
I know in our situation, the girls were "talked to" but never really punished. The thing is, they mostly did stuff when the teachers didn't see it so they felt like there wasn't much they could do. It was pretty frustrating as a parent to see all this.
I'm seriously thinking about homeschooling my youngest son. I don't want him to ever have to go through something like that. No child should ever have to go through that.
It seems to be worse somehow ,maybe because of the internet I actaully have seen some of it go on amongst the teens on Facebook ,but most seem to cope with it, years ago at least in UK you wre able to stand up and yell or bash back, its not allowed now here or in the UK I think the schools must take more responsibility if they see Physical or verbal abuse ,more supervision and hey the parents at home should take the Internet away . I have a relative whose son was hard of hearing and wore deaf hearing aids , the modern digital ones, he was ragged so much about it he stopped eating and started acting out ,has refused to wear any hearing aid, since then , they are trying to get him into counselling, this all stemmed from bullying ..
good question Margypops--------- After trying to ignore them as this will thwart a lot of bullies, but if that didn't work I think what I would do is get involved as a parent. I would call the school principal with any names of bullies and specific examples (any proof via the cyber world as well). If they have a zero tolerance policy regarding students standing up for themselves, then they must have disciplinary measures to handle it. That might not make the problem go away, so I would contact their parents. I'd make a LOT of noise about it. But knowing how to stand up to bullies is important. It often doesn't take brute force but knowing that bullies are usually severely insecure and actually pretty vulnerable emotionally. So I'd give him an emotional punch back. I don't take too well to bullies myself and I would go to great lengths to protect my kid. And I also think kids all the way through the teens need to be monitered to a certain extent with computers and cell phones and daily happenings. ---------- this poor young man that committed suicide must have been depressed. I wonder if his parents were aware and if medical intervention could have helped. Very sad and I hope never to face such issues.
I believe there was also some 'cyber bullying' involved ....how would you deal with that .....
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