Friends Invitations

[April2]

What do you guys do when someone sends you a friends invitation and you aren't sure who they are? Do you just accept it, ignore it or investigate who the person is?
I kind of wish people wouldn't do that. I wish they'd send you a message or note first saying how they know you and asking if they can send an invitation. If I don't know who the person is, I wind up investigating and trying to figure out who they are and how they know me! I'm left wondering if they maybe saw me answer a post they agreed with and that's why they sent me an invitation? Or did they actually speak with me and I don't remember? Then I go back and look at all the posts to try and figure it out.

I kind of like to get to know the person first before I put them on my friend's list. I don't want to offend people but I just like to get to know them a little bit first. Anybody else out there feel like that too? What do you guys do? Just curious!
April

[MJIthewriter]

I tend to accept invites as long as they have a profile of some sort. Most of the people on my friends list came from invites. Typically I don't send invites, except lately I have sent a few out. Still I prefer to let people send me invites rather than me going out sending them.  If people add me, please just click once.  I seem to end up with a few duplicates.

As far as photos, only once did I upload a picture of myself (in small scale) for friends, but I took it down because I did not feel comfortable with people seeing my photo.  I also strongly recommend against people having photos of themselves and families open for public viewing. Set those for friends only at least, if not don't upload them all together. I set most of my artwork as friends only as well.

As far as spammers go, only once I remember a spammer sending a personal message to me. That earned them a report and being blocked on my list. Thankfully they didn't send an invite.

[mirabella45]

Hmmm  Not sure I want to continue with spammers on board.

[JoyRenee]

Well... I accept them all but I'm in a unique position being a leader in my community. I just assume that people send me invites because they think I'm a nurse or doctor (which I'm not--- I just keep fights from breaking out) or just because I'm the CL in that particular community.

You're smart to check them out, though. I know there's a lot of spammers here.

[kitty51]

I tlak to some people who arent even on my list and thats ok too.Some of them on my list i havent heard from since they sent the invitation.Doesnt bother me,at all.We dont really know each other.I wouldnt post pics of my kids either and they are adults! My pic wont go up,I think you lot have had enough laughs for this month~~LOL

[Cherie762]

I can remember well being new on here, now its fairly easy to figure out the personalitys or styles of the long timers on herer, new people dont know anyone, they usually come here at the heigth of their crisis and look for someone with similar problems to bod with, like someone above said you can always delete them later if a problem happens

also how many on your friends list do you really talk to I talk to 5 everyday and everyone else rarely.

[AHP84]

I am the same way with accepting invitations. If I don't know the person, if they just seemed to pop up out of nowhere, then I don't accept. I have many pictures and journals set to "friends only" privacy.
The only way I'll accept an invitation without viewing a profile is if the MH member who sent me the invite has been a member for awhile, and I see them post day after day. I have accepted a few invitations like that, and I've even sent a few to some of the regulars here without a PM or note, seeing as I don't have to necessarily introduce myself.