Friends Invitations

[April2]

What do you guys do when someone sends you a friends invitation and you aren't sure who they are? Do you just accept it, ignore it or investigate who the person is?
I kind of wish people wouldn't do that. I wish they'd send you a message or note first saying how they know you and asking if they can send an invitation. If I don't know who the person is, I wind up investigating and trying to figure out who they are and how they know me! I'm left wondering if they maybe saw me answer a post they agreed with and that's why they sent me an invitation? Or did they actually speak with me and I don't remember? Then I go back and look at all the posts to try and figure it out.

I kind of like to get to know the person first before I put them on my friend's list. I don't want to offend people but I just like to get to know them a little bit first. Anybody else out there feel like that too? What do you guys do? Just curious!
April

[Tuckamore]

I usually remember "names" of MH ppl that I disagree with their most of their posts or more importantly their approaches. Those individuals have never sent me a friendship offer. Normally I am on the Pain Management Forum. I have only been here 6 months. I have yet to receive an friendship invitation that I didn't accept or that I didn't' want. I am lucky. I haven't been burned either.  

And though I have been asked by several members I do not post pictures of myself or my family. I think the imagination is just as good as actually seeing a person anyway. Though I did love the "dog likenesses" that Kitty posted a bit ago.

I wholeheartedly agree that it would be nice if a little not could be sent with the invitations. That is a great idea. Maybe we should put it on the suggestion forum.

[margypops]

You have a good point this has brought it to my attention, thank you April for that I will be more careful.

[April2]

That's a good idea. That's why I've never posted pictures of my kids. I have a 16 year old daughter and that's all I'd need is to have some pervert think she's hot or something. It just gives me the creeps.
I've had people ask how come I don't post pictures. Well, that's why. I did post a few pictures of my pets, though. That's as far as I'll go, I think!

[Jacqui805]

Here's the real deal on why it's not always wise to accept friendship invites from unknowns....

Some people have pictures posted on their profiles....I do.  I have a privacy setting on some of them, so that those pics can only be viewed by friends.  When I didn't have it that way, and showed openly, pics of my children and whatnot, I got people who have no buisness viewing those lookin' at them.  Also, sometimes, people set their journal entries for just friends to see as well...

[mirabella45]

There is nothing wrong with being cautious!!   Being aware and going with your gut instincts is what will save you.

[April2]

Yeah, that's good! I've been pretty fortunate, too, but there's always a few weirdos out there, I guess!
I tend to be overly cautious anymore. I used to be pretty naive and trusting but did get burned on here once by someone I thought was a friend. So, I try to be more careful.
I don't give out personal information either. Like I said, maybe I'm too cautious but you just never know.
Now that I've been on this site for over a year and a half I've learned who I can trust who's been on here for awhile and are regulars, etc.