Too much porn = total lost of libido?

[WhatToDo-X]

I'm 25 and I was single for a few months. And lately I've been watching a lot of porn. I was only masturbating with porn. At least 1 time each day, for a long time. Now I've meet this incredibly attractive women, and we are starting a relationship.

But I can't get it up anymore!!!!!! I just can't!! I've stoped the porn for almost 1 week and I can't even get it up (with her OR without her) I just have no more libido at all. I'm just not exited at all with I guest "regular real sex".

We did not (yet) tryed to have sex but we fooled around a lot and I didn't even get horny at all. Don't have to say that It didn't got hard too.

I had a girlfriend for 4 years and never had such problem (i wasn't looking at porn very much though)

Now I'm so afraid to tell her I can't get it up!! And how can I get my libido back??? I realy find her attractive and want to have sex with her sooooo bad.

Pleaaaaaaaaaaase I need helpppppp soo much!!!!

What can I do to get my libido, and in the same time my erections, back??
(I've stoped to watch that damn porn for good don't worry!!!)

God I'm so ambarassed, and don't want to loose her.

Thank you verry much!!

[Trialanderror]

Maybe she is too attractive. Maybe it is something else but beauty that sparks your desires. Who knows. Super-attractive "candidates" never turned me on. I need personality and edge. Maybe it`s just that.

[UC1978]

Hey guy it is the same experience I have been thru is the past year. I totally cut off any porn and stop the masturbation. I read from many source telling you masturbation is healthy and do no harm to you..but I think it is bullsh*t. In my own opinion Masturbation DO affect your performance in real intimate relationships. I cannot not tell you how exactly it affect you but from my understanding is that it disrupted your neurology system and your hormone balance. The good news is if many ED case in younger guys like you are due to hormone imbalance result from excessive masturbation and usually they are reversible, unlike ED cases caused by vascular problem in the penis area in older guys which usually are irreversible.
  I thank god my gf is very understanding and supportive all the time. And I can see things are progressing towards the brighter side day by day. What I can tell you is stop all the worrying first... you are young and it happen to most of the guys too. talk to your partner get her  support. Try to take Zinc and Magnesium supplement as they may help you to restore testosterone level. Usually many younger guys can restore their function in 3 to 6 months. I will advise you try to calm yourself and keep positive thinking.    

[RavensFan2k3]

So you say that these neurological and hormone damage and imbalances can be reversed and put back to normal in about 3-6 months, what needs to be done in order for this to happen tho? Does the body heal itself?

Also do you agree with the statement a few posts up about what we should avoid in porn? About how we should also really worry about avoiding watching actual sexual actions and that pictures of arrousing images are ok and even videos of arrousing images are ok, aslong there is no actual sex going on?

[schlomo]

So what's your status these days?

[newstartman]

I found a method that can solve this problem.  

Don't look at any porn, or pictures of girls.  Nothing at all.

Then start masturbating using only your imagination.  You need to re-learn how to arouse yourself wihtout all that imagery and stimulation being provided.  When you start to find stuff in your own head that works, then start thinking about the girl you like.  Start masturbating to her and bingo, things get back on track.  Combine this with aerobic exercise and you get a super hard **** (In my experience).  Good cardio vascular fitness makes your **** harder when you get aroused.  And stay away from alcohol, drugs, coffee.  Go clean, excercise, re-learn your inner arousal techniques and bingo.  It all comes together...

It works.  Takes some time, at least 1 week.

Oh, and it's worth the effort because it's much better than porn once you get back into proper *******.  Warning  however, if you lapse back into porn, it can lower your labido again and **** up a good sexual relationship. Unless you combine the two, but that has it's own issues.

[shad0ww0lf25]

ok my dude is 26 and i have no problem getting him hard or getting him off but its just his sex drive has went down sooo much after we moved in together. I want hot passionate sex like b4 but even if i beg he gives me stupid woman excuses like i've got a headache or my stomach hurts or get off me i'm tired! ... its really annoying and depressing so any tips you have on getting him back into the mood would be really appreciated. Please e-mail me at ***@**** if u have anything that might work... ty