Enjoy your life you will meet someone you will fall in love and goes towards him just pray he will feel the seem. so don't take tension and enjoy your life you will fall for someone.
Thanks and have a great life.
Not sure what you're truly asking about. Some people like sex with strangers. Some like it with people they have an attachment with. Some like both. Some like neither. We're all pretty individual in this. It is concerning if you're doing this at 16, though. That's pretty young to be that sexually active with a lot of different men, but that too is very individual, our sex drives come at different ages. I grew up in the 60's and there was a lot of casual sex going on and also a lot of very young sex going on. Some liked being in love and some just liked the attention and some just liked the feeling. We all grew up and got old and got married, so don't fret. At your age, the chances of any relationship lasting all that long is pretty slim, people change fast, and if you're going through a period where you love the attention you get by someone wanting to sleep with you. you're probably not someone who would make a good partner right now, but you won't be like this forever most likely. And as the above says, at some point, when you're older, you'll meet someone who you want to make a relationship with. In the meantime, have fun but be safe. I don't know how in the covid era you can feel safe having sex with a lot of random people, but it's your life, not ours. But love, it comes, and often it also goes. Peace.
Hi sweetie. So, what's your family life like? Is your dad in the picture? Are he and your mom close? Sometimes, my friends who had a promiscuous past and had a hard time actually connecting in a loving way with the opposite sex had situations with their dads and their parents at home. It's kind of a pattern. They did counseling and turned that around. So, I am asking just to understand if anything like that could be going on. Having a one night stand with a 30 year old is illegal. A grown man with a teenager is very problematic.
Another question is how is your self esteem? Could you stand to work on that? As in, whether you want sex or not, these men/boys are using you for sex. It will take a hit on your pride eventually to just be a sexual conquest for the night. It does begin to chip away at you. Your self respect probably needs to be strengthened (said with kindness and empathy). Even if you want sex badly, no one wants to be used.
Absolutely, I have had best friends who have been down the same path as you. Another hard question is if you have been sexually molested. That's another thing that this pattern emerges in teen girls from. I'm so sad to say that. But being molested either by an adult or even another child/peer or older child/peer leaves an impact that can result in negative patterns. Putting a band aid on it with sex was what my friends realized they were doing. Putting a band aid on hurt. And after, they began to feel shame. Shame is hard to deal with. But please know, they (and you) are just trying to do the best they can.
Do you also drink or use drugs a bit? This can be such a trap for kids. Lots do it (I did things I hate to admit with regards to this as a teen). But please know it's a trap. Try to figure out if that is the best thing for you if it also contributes to negative things and situations in your life.
I can tell you that you deserve more than to be used.
My friends all became more settled as they got older. All are married and leading 'regular' lives. One had an affair on her husband though, unfortunately. But you will find love. Work on patterns that aren't healthy for you though.
I give this advice to every girl your age or young woman. We have a limited time to set ourselves up in life. Sure, it can be done later but it is much harder. School/education is the ticket to having more choices in our future. You may never have to be dependent on anyone if you educate yourself and set yourself toward a career that will provide for you. That's very freeing. So, keep your focus on school sweetie. I probably sound about 5,000 years old saying that. But I promise you, that opens the most doors for you and gives you the freedom to be more in control of your life down the road. hugs
Fear of intimacy could be the reason, is there a point partway into any relationship where you start to experience feelings of panic and either sabotage the connection or just leave?
Love cannot develop unless we trust others enough to show them our weak side and our worries.
You can live without love in your life. I have done it for 69 years, but mine problem is more mental issues. Just keep on living your life, keep on enjoying sex, just make sure you use protection, STD or pregnancy can mess up your life. Continue your education so you can get a good job and find other interests. Maybe later you can get some counseling to help you.
Girls these days seem so much more sexual, and attractive than I remember when I was that age. Back in the early 60's holding hands and maybe kissing was all you could get out of them and most seemed 'looks challenged'. Getting any of them to 'put out' was a fantasy, and rarely happened. It sucked.
I can see why older men want to have sex with you, you are young, sexy and willing. It seems like older women are just to stuffy and choosy who they want to mate with so they put themselves out of the sexual market. Not to mention most of the older women have way to much baggage, so a young 16 year old seems one hell of a lot better choice. Just don't get the guy in trouble, unfortunately our antiquated laws make having sex with someone your age is against the law.
Back when I was in my very early 20's I had a nonsexual relationship with a 15 year old, if she hadn't lived a 100 miles away I think it would have become sexual. I met my first wife when she was 16. We got married when she was 17. Later on when I was 42 I had a relationship with a 19 year old. The reason I liked her was she was not stuck in the 60's and 70's like all the women my age, and had little baggage.
Not wanting to bore you with my experiences, but wanted to let you know that love is possible, you just have to be ready for it. Right now you are having to much fun to settle down with one person so keep on doing what you are doing and enjoy it. Good luck