Dealing with pregnant people after miscarriages

[khull90]

I've had two miscarriages in 6 months. One in December and one a month ago on March 30. Exactly 4 weeks after my miscarriage, I found out my sister in law was pregnant on Facebook no less. They didn't even bother to call me. I've been crying for nearly two days straight. I hate seeing pregnant people because it's a constant reminder of what I don't have. How do I deal with seeing her? My whole family doesn't really think my babies were actually babies because I never got to see them/have them. They are acting as if I should be over this by now. My husband is definitely on my side but I wanted to know if there was any other ladies that had miscarriages that are dealing with the same thing and how you are dealing with it. Sorry for the rant.

[hotmama78]

Rach.. Waooo.. I am so happy for u...!! I am speechless... You made it finally, I really really happy for you Rach.. Omg which date of February Amber was born? I interested because I am February too. Exciting....!!

Hugs...xoxo
Rachel....

[trish3113]

I know exactly how u feel. My first mc was in 06 and my friend was due 3 days after me. Even now I look at her 7 year old son and picture my daughter playing with him like we both discussed when pregnant. Seeing him doesnt get me in tears anymore but it does remind me of my little girl and what should have been x

[rach301]

Hello

I am sorry for your loss and your pain. I had 2 missed miscarriages in 2012, and 6 months apart. I only find out on my 1st scans, which was cruel and devasting for my husband and I.

I thought that was it for me and I thought my dream for motherhood was over then. I just couldn't understand that it happened to me twice, and 2 times ina row. The fear of having theses miscarriages and not achieving my dream of being a mum was hard for me to deal with.

I had to also have 2 D&C'S, so it was very stressful for me.

However I was 3rd time lucky and I gave birth in Feb 2014.

The pregnancy was not plain sailing. at about 12 weeks I spotted red blood and I fell down the stairs from top to bottom at 4 weeks into my pregnancy, I tripped on the 2nd step on the stairs, I was so scared that I would lose the pregnancy. I also slipped on a wet floor at 5 months, and my baby made it and was both healthy.

It's hard not to be Jealous of pregnant women. I was sometimes Jealous and Bitter too. I felt anger and fear, but theses emotions will eat u alive, try and just focus on getting healthy and trying again if ur ready too.

When I had Amber I had of PND, and i did not realise how hard motherhood would be, but it's rewarding.

I am truely grateful to be a mum because i know it's not always easy to achieve this dream.

Wish you luck.

Takecare

[lizm83]

It is very difficult I had my miscarriage back on August 22,2013 I was 8 weeks, till this day it hurts to see pregnant women or family & friends. Makes me feel mad like why were they blessed & not me p r what could I have done differently .... But I have to tell myself God does things for a reason, one day I will be blessed to give birth to a healthy baby or babies it is very traumatizing & so heartbreaking but you have to take it one day at a time & thank God that you are ok & healthy & try try to allow yourself to be strong enough to be happy for anyone wether they are related friend or stranger. Also have Faith and good luck

[Yovis14]

I know how you feel I had my m/c 3-30-14 which is exactly 1 mth today.  It is so hard for me to see pregnant people as well then my husband's brother has his girlfriend pregnant as well and she is almost due.  We were pregnant together I was at 14 weeks. It's just something natural that we can't control.  

[azndoraemon]

When you see pregnant women, smile and be happy for them.  It's good to be a good person.  Tell yourself you will be just like them soon.  Take care of your body right now and don't stress out.  

[leelynn]

I feel the same I had a miscarriage at the end of march this year and my boyfriend's cousin is due next month and I hate seeing her cause it always makes me think about what I was going to have but what now is gone when I go anywhere all I see is pregnant women and prams everywhere its hurtful and annoying because we really want one

[azndoraemon]

I know it's hard as this was my first pregnancy and i lost it in Feb 2014 at 7 weeks.  We are expecting three babies in my family this summer and I have three co-workers on my floor that are also pregnant.  

It is hard to forget your little one but we must let it go and move on.  Your babies will always remain in your heart.  I don't think your family feels that your babies weren't babies but this is something they/we can't keep thinking about it.  It's best to stay strong and don't bring the sorrow to others.  Both of our sides of the family still don't know about my m/c and it has been two months.  

I don't like bringing my problem to the family especially is a no one's fault.  Try to be happy for your sis in laws. I don't think it would make you any happier if they call you.  Is better to talk to people that gone through what you gone through.  

Relax and wait until you get one or two normal cycles and try again.  Good luck!