Help - Thoughts?

[Hope71]

I am 39 and have two healthy children (16 & 8).  In 2006, I had an ectopic pregnancy and lost my left tube as a result.  Last Nov.  I realized that I was pregnant again. My doctor sent me for an ultrasound at 7 weeks and everything was fine.  I went for my second ultrasound on Jan 20 @ 12 weeks where they told me that I had a missed abortion at 9 weeks.  I had a D&C the same day.  

I am OK physically but am very emotional and confused.  This pregnancy was not planned but I accepted it and started to feel the excitements and told friends and family about it.  Now, I don’t know what to do – should I try to forget about it and move on?   Should I try for another?  Thoughts?

[gromit68]

hi,
I really feel for you and so sorry that you have lost your baby and i know how you feel cause am pretty much in the same boat.
I had 2 miscarriages then went on to have a boy now 10 and a girl who is 9 and are my world.
Totally out the blue i found i was expecting at xmas and after alot of talking and thinking both myself and my husband came round to the idea and became very excited again told our 2 children who were over the moon, but sadly i lost the baby at 10 week 2 weeks ago and was devastated and like you now i feel like i dont know  what to do.
Am 37 years old and thought my family was all complete and now i feel like i have something missing, my hubby does not want me to go through the pain again of losing another baby but is the pain of not having another child worse?
We decided to leave it for a few months and talk about it again just dont know how long i will be happy with that.
totally understand how you feel and i wish you all the best in the choices you make and if you do decide to go for it again all the best luck in the world to you x

[mjmom69]

I'm so sorry for your loss. You need time to heal and decide for yourself if you do want to try again. You will go thru so many emotions in the next few weeks and months. Give yourself time to work thru the pain and sort out your emotions. I was shocked at how hard it was to get thru. Some women have a much harder time than others. Just let yourself mourn if you need to and you will eventually know for yourself if you want to try again. Good luck to you whatever you decide.