Understanding....REAL LIFE STORIES

[MzUKitty]

Hello, I "was" an expecting mother. I was 12 weeks and I was continually bleeding for almost a week. I checked myself into the hospital yesterday (7/24/08) and they ran all types of test on me. They told me my hormones was low. My sak was 3 months but my baby wasn't growing (or adding up to the right number of weeks he/she was suppose to be) Is there any way...

[hope61]

Hi Kitty. well the ladies are saying the truth. this forum is what have got me on my feet. I sorry for what you are going through. I want to wish that you stop bleeding and that youre okay. All this whatever that it is that you're going through with your baby is most so devastating. I had miscarriage July1, naturally, and no matter what this is something that stays with you forever! like the other lady said scream and shout. I think for myself I was also trying to be strong since everything happened so fast I found out I was pregnant and in a matter of two weeks, I found out I had no  fetal pole no heartbeat. I had not told anyone and I think that also made it harder. I waited for the natural misscarriage almost a month and nobody knew about it. I had to put a face everyday, and all that time wishing and hoping that things would change, prayed that God would give my baby a heartbeat. And then I had the miscarriage and reality hit me. Like Latrice said I didn't have a very supportive group myself and this forum just helped me so much, eventhough it doesn' t get any better, you just learn how to deal with it not cope, this is so hard and only the women on here that have gone through the same know how you feel, understand and are willing to listen. I extend my friendship to you and pray that everything is ok. and if you need to talk just let us know.

[adgal]

As the other 2 ladies said, we are here for you.  I can't tell you what a source of support this forum has been for me as it takes someone who has been in our shoes to truly understand what it feels like.  I went through a very deep depression after my last m/c for a week or two, and reading the notes and messages I received from my friends here really helped me get through it.  I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but it does get better.  Day by day, bit by bit you feel emotionally stronger.  This is a time to do whats right for you.  I tried to be "strong" and sort of hide my emotions for a bit, and I think thats why things got so much worse for me before they got better.  Its ok to cry scream yell, whatever you need to do.  And know we are here extending a "cyber hand" to you.  We have all been through this, and I know most of us try to extend the support to others that we received ourselves.  Hang in there, and take extra good care of yourself.

Hugs to you,
Amanda

[Kimmy9093]

I, and alot of the women on Med Help know EXACTLY what you're going thru. You're going to be just fine. Time is on your side. Latrice is SO RIGHT! This is an amazing forum. The women on here have gotten me thru some hard times, and are helping me get thru the hard time I going thru right now.

I just went thru a 3rd missed m/c. It's been almost 2wks since my D&E. After my 2nd m/c I was told my hormones were low, and I was given Prometrium, a progesterone supplement. Your body's probably not producing enough prog., which the baby must have in the first trimester. After the 1st trimester, the placenta starts producing the progesterone. Just when I thought I was home-free, another problem arose with my last pregnancy, I tested + for MTHFR, which is a bloodclotting and folic acid problem. I have to take babyaspirin for the rest of my life, along with prenatal, and Folbic, which is a vitamin that contains B6, B12, and folic acid. I'm waiting for the tests to come back, but my DR's are pretty sure a bloodclot formed in my uterus & the baby died immediately. Unfortunately, the Prometrium was actually keeping me prego, and my body wouldn't naturally miscarry, hence the D&E.

Get EVERY test done for next time. Unfortunately, we have no control over what our bodies are do. We can however, be totally prepared, that's why it's good to get everything checked "under the hood". :)

I'm going thru an emotional rollercoaster right now, but my faith in God is getting me thru this. Goodluck to you and I'll be praying for ya!

[Latrice414]

Im so sorry you are going threw this, I had a missed m/c june 12th two days after my 32nd birthday.  That thursday i new something was wrong so i went to er to have them to u/s i was suppose to be 10weeks and 3 days u/s showed baby was only 10 weeks. I was in shock becasue i was llike what did i do in 3 days that killed my baby. (Im also an RN) so i was very intune with my body, most people that dont have any bleeding or cramps would not notice taht until their next dr apptment, you hear some stories where women say they were suppose to be 12 weeks and baby measured 6 weeks.

Baby not measuring its size, dropping hcg levels, no heart beat and bleeding is some of the indications of a miscarriage. Sometimes if a heartbeat is not seen at 6 weeks, its possible that its just not seen and then at 10 weeks there goes the heart beat.

What is your actuall situation, was there a heartbeat, what did the drs tell you, is the baby still alive, did you bleeding stop

I ended up having a d&c on june 17th because i didnt want to do it naturally, i was a wreck and couldnt bare any longer walking around with my dead baby in me, and it was my first miscarriage so i was still in shock.  I just got my first period since then,(july 22) and im hoping and praying for a brighter furture.

I will keep you in my prayers, if you need to talk you can always send me a messsage, this is a good forum to vent, express yourself and talk with others who UNDERSTANDS what you are going threw.  I found that my friends and families were very insensitive when i tried to talk to them about my m/c, they did not understand why i was still so said after a week :0(what, i lost a baby, why wouldnt i be said) only person who gave me comfort was my mom bcuz she had 2 m/c's in her life, even til this day, i dont talk about it to my friends and family bcuz if i even seem like im going to mention the baby they sighhh like here we go again with this ****.  I hope you have a good support group, again like i said, this is a great forum.

Keep me posted on whats going on with you.