scared of trying again. (experiences please)

[TawnyTaylor92]

i have recently had a miscarriage, few days ago, i'm waiting for afew weeks to heal ect.. but i'm scared of trying again, incase it all happens again, please can anyone tell me how they felt about trying after going through a miscarriage.? x

[TawnyTaylor92]

Thankyou for telling me, your experiences.
this was my first miscarriage, and i hope my last, the scan said i where 6-7week gone, the first scan they weren't sure to wether there was a heartbeat, the 2nd scan they confirmed there was no heartbeat and that the sac was growing but the baby wasn't, they gave me a missed miscarriage booklet, and the choice of another weeks wait, or a d&c.. i chose to wait another week, was due back on friday 11th, but miscarried thursday 10th. had d&c friday afternoon, it was hard having just the one mc, but i dont know how you managed to get through more than 1 , you must of been really strong, and its nice to know that through other people's experience of a miscarriage that they have gone on to have perfectly healthy children, it gives me more hope, and i hope that every woman who has been through an mc gets the baby they deserve, the nurses in the hospital where really kind and even though it was such an upsetting operation, the nurses where really friendly and cheered me up a little, and put a smile on my face, i guess my baby wasn't meant to be and that i will get mine someother time, thankyou for your support and for telling me your experiences its really helped and i hope the best for you both in the future, no woman should have to go through this but unfortunatly its just one of the challenges that us women sometimes have to overcome,
your stories have helped me have more hope for the future, and when me and my partner are ready to try again, i hope that your prayers and baby dust helps me get the baby i've always wanted,
thankyou so much girls xx

[snagglepuss1]

Hi to both ladies

sorry to hear what you have both just gone through.
It's awful to lose a much wanted baby, but to then think about trying again and what might happen is very very scary too.
I'll tell you about myself. I first fell pregnant at 22, dh and I were ttc but I still got a shock when I got the positive test. The pregnancy was quite tough and I was very sick with it. Our 1st scan at 16 weeks showed the baby was alive but had a severe birth defect..too severe to survive. Due to my level of sickness, I delivered our 1st baby stillborn at almost 17 weeks. I like you both of you could not wait to try again and was pregnant for a 2nd time 3 months later. At our 6 week scan only the gest sac was detected...a re-scan 2 weeks later showed no growth or hb still and we were told we had a blighted ovum. I opted for a d&c the next day.
It then took 6 months before I fell pregnant a third time, at 6 weeks I started bleeding, which got heavier and heavier, I miscarried at home on my own just after New Years Day in 2004. By this point I was beginning to doubt if I would ever have a baby of my own and at times didn't want to try again for fear of another loss.
However, I was pregnant again by June of 2004, at our 6 week scan the registrar gave us the news that the pregnancy was again looking like another blighted ovum and gave us the option for a d&c as soon as we wanted. I declined and we waited the longest week for a re-scan....thank god we did! It showed our babies heart beating away!
My first baby, a little girl, was born Feb 2005, she is 6 tomorrow and I'm so glad I followed my gut and waited for the re-scan. I now have 2 boys as well who are 4 and 3 and am ttc my 4th (and final!) baby. And will no doubt feel as worried and anxious with my other 3 when I was carrying them.
The hardest part is the waiting and the not knowing and wondering if you will ever get that much wanted baby....but believe me when I say, any heartache you feel now, the moment you hold your baby in your arms for the first time, all of that will fade, you never forget, but it gets easier!
I hope this has helped in some way and wish you both good luck and lots of baby dust for the future!
Best wishes

[shea2010]

hi we all feel are same, i also mc on the 29th dec 2010. me and my husband did try again and i fell pregnant again but we did mc again on the 2nd feb so the doctor now told us to wait a few months before trying again. i feel now i am ready to try but we will wait and see going to leave it in gods hands now. you no your own body if you think you are ready go for it. sorry to hear about your lost pet...