Goin on after a miscarriage

[mommytobeagain]

I just found out the other day that me and my husband lost our second child to blighted ovum. I couldnt do the D and C so we are waiting to have the miscarrage. Was that the right choice? I'm nervous that i made the wrong choice. But i wanted to make sure that the baby was really gone. I didnt want to ever regret the choice i made.  

[mommytobeagain]

First off i want to thank u all for ur prayers and ur advice and experience. After a week of debating between the miscarriage or the DnC the Dr. told us it was time for a choice. My body didnt seem to be anywhere near the miscarriage so we went on ahead and did the DnC. I didnt hurt at all after and there was barley any bleeding. So, aparently my Dr. did everything right. I'm not excited about the choice i had to make but i'm glad its over.  We are undecided if we want anymore kids. But thank u all for ur kind words!

[determined39]

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Those questions just have to be answered and whatever decesion you make you  need to know that it was the best for you at that time.  I had my natural.  A d&c would have caused additional scarring that could cause me problems with future preg.  ( I've had two c-sections that have already left scarring )  If you opt on letting things happen natural I found with my personal experiences that when I took my current doctor reccomendations of resting that I had a lot less pain and bleeding for an extended time.  I couldn't have done the d&c anyhow I needed the mc to happen on its own so I had no questioning of the doctor.  But there are reasons for both ways.  In anycase it is all bad.  I wish you the best.  Take care of yourself.

[krushing]

I had a blighted ovum in March, 2006.  Doctor said do the D&C and so we did.  I put my trust in my doctor and I had to put all my "what ifs" in the back of my mind.  Looking back I am glad I had the D&C, because I m/c again February of this year.  I had already started passing clots and so the ER said I should continue natural m/c instead of D&C.  Going natural was the worst thing for me.  Knowing when I passed my baby was horrible and with the D&C it was over and done with and I could go on and grieve and start to move on.  You have to do what is in your heart.

[Latrice414]

I am so sorry for your loss, there are so many options and choices we can make in our lives.  The only advice I can give you is have faith in the choice you made.  Sometimes anychoice could be the wrong choice, as long as your gut feeling told you to make that choice you should be fine.  Again i am very sorry for your loss and will keep you in my prayers.  I had missed m/c june 12th two days after my 32 b-day and dnc on june 17th.  I didnt like the experience of the dnc and i didnt like the experience of having contractions to expell what was left in my uterus, none of it is a choice i wouldve liked to go threw.  I sit here thinking, should we try again, in two months or just wait, that was my fiances first child, and it has been difficult on us, I do have a 12 yr old who will be 13 this july, but i wanted to add the addition of Logan Alex Hickman-Thompson to the family.  Again i want to say sorry and god bless you.