blighted ovum

[Hopefull3840]

I just found out yesterday that I have a blighted ovum.  This was my third pregnancy, and my third miscarriage.  I don't understand why this is happening.  My husband and I want to have a child so bad and it is heartbreaking to go through this again.  Our first pregnancy ended at 9 weeks, I started spotting and apparently the baby had stopped growing at six.  They thought that I might have PCOS so they put me on metformin.  After having my D&C my Dr, never came out to talk to my husband,  We decided to change Dr's.  We ended up getting pregnant naturally again about 6  months later.  I demanded an U/S at six weeks.  We saw the babies hb, but a week later I felt that something was wrong.  I went back in and the baby was no longer there.  I had another D&C.  My new Dr. decided to run all types of tests (genetic, semen analysis, HSG, etc) They found one abnormality with my MTHFR gene.  He said we should go to a fertility specialist.  We went there and they put me on a baby asrping and follic acid.  I did three rounds of IUI with no luck.  We moved on to IVF and on the first try we got pregnant.  Now we found out I have a blighted ovum.  I think I passed the tissue yesterday, but not for sure.  I go back tomorrow to check.  If I haven't then I get a D&C on New Year's Eve.  Lucky me, huh.  I just don't know how to continue this, three miscarriages in one year *****!  

[LucyEmi]

I know exactly how you feel.  I have had three losses; the last two were blighted ovum.  I am also a teacher.  My last loss was just two weeks ago.  I had a D & C on a Thursday and rested the weekend.  I was doing ok emotionally until Sunday.  I was miserable; all I wanted to do was cry and sleep.  I did not want to see anyone or go anywhere much less go back to work on Monday.  I teach at a high school and see many pregnant girls and it makes me angry to see all these unprepared girls fooling around and getting pregnant while I on the other hand keep trying and trying to no avail.  It disgusts me to find out about the women, who are normally young girls, who have their babies and throw them in trash bins because obviously they were unwanted while women who do want babies are struggling with the pregnancy issues.  Ugh!

[LucyEmi]

I have also had three miscarriages in one year, two of which were blighted ovum.  I was devastated with the first and second one.  I was a little depressed with the last one but nonetheless, it was painful emotionally.  I have been trying for a year to get pregnant after my son turned 1 but keep losing the pregnancies.  Good luck to you and I hope soon you will have a healthy baby.  

[isassorrow]

If I may add just one thing. Ever since my baby died at 16 weeks I have been trying to find out why. I am very healthy with no history of anything and had 3 healthy children. My research took me to a horrible truth about my food that I was eating. First the milk I was drinking had rbhg hormones in it from the cows they were injecting it to, it passes to the milk and makes the cow have more milk but she losses her fertility, so if we drink the bovine hormone we have horrible fertility issues too among other side effects. Then I found out about GMO foods most of which I was eating and didnt know it as its not on the labels because they passed a law in this country to protect the companies so that they can sell it and people will never know. GMO food is very dangerous and all the studies show it but yet its in most of out foods. Like corn, wheat, soy all in the USA genetically modified. I believe that all this is linked to lots of us women and our infertilifty.

[Kricket212]

Hopeful- I am sorry to hear about you going thru all of this.  Are you producing eggs that Dr says you have ovarian aging?  What made him say that?

songinmind- I am so sorry that you are going thru another m/c.  Was this your first sono & just found out?  Did you do IVF also?  

[songinmind]

US showed an empty sac- blighted ovum at 8w1d. I've just been kind of staring mindlessly at the TV all afternoon-  numb, sad, angry. The doctor recommended another D&C. So I get to schedule that next week once my fiancée gets back from London.

I don't know why these miscarriages make me feel so angry at my body. It's just frustrating that I get pregnant in 2-3 months and then my body just doesn't do the right things to take care if it.  It just feels like God is deciding I'm not fit to be a mother, when that's my biggest desire in life right now.

Sorry to t/j Hopeful-  thanks for thinking of me. I think I would really just lose it if I didn't know how many other great women who are going through the same thing.  

[Hopefull3840]

Thank you all for your support.  I am sorry that all of us are going through this.  I ended up having my D&C on New Years Eve.  I also found out that have have ovarian aging.  I am 32, but my ovaries are that of a 40 year old.  My dr. recommended we try another round of IVF.  I just don't know why he seems to think that it will work this time.  He also suggested an egg donor.  I am not sure how I feel about that.  I am so frustrated now because of the ovarian aging.  I had some hope before I found that out.  I am to the point that no matter what my husband says to me nothing seems to help.  I am a teacher and I go back to school on Monday.  I don't even feel like going.  Most of my parents do very little to support their child.  I am so bitter towards them for being able to conceive.  

songinmind- what did you find out?

My thoughts and prayers are with each of you.  What are your plans now?

[isassorrow]

I am so sorry for you loss, I lost a baby girl at 16 weeks and had a D&E as baby was too big for D&C, we have been trying to concieve again since November. I know how hard it must be to have 3 losses and for that I am truly sorry. I know that time heals the pain, dont give up will be thinking of you and wish you all the best.

[songinmind]

I am so sorry.  I got in for an US tomorrow to find out if I have a blighted ovum or not, and that would be my second miscarriage.  (First was a missed miscarriage).  Right now, I can't even fathom a third, but I know that my desire to someday have children will cause me to TTC again until it finally happens.  It is not fair and there are no good words to say when faced with multiple miscarriages.

There's lots of us here who can empathize-  do feel free to vent or get out your feelings more over the next few months.  Hang in there- thoughts are with you.

[Kricket212]

HOw are you holding up? Did you get the D & C yet?
I just had my first m/c on tuesday.  I have my D&C scheduled for this wed. I just started spotting today so not sure what will happen between now & wed if I will pass on my own or not?

My thoughts & prayers are with you.........we need to stay strong.