early miscarriage... early divorce?

[lonely350]

After 3 years of ttc, all sorts of tests, and 2 IUI, I finally got pregnant...only to m/c at 61/2 wks (5 wks ago). I have been doing OK, I guess, with ups and downs, but my marriage is suffering. I have felt alone and miserable; my husband seems to be doing great. Just now I was trying to talk to him: I was telling him how I had had a great day, feeling fine all morning... I also said I was surprised that it had been quite a while since I felt so good, but that later I felt sad... I was so surprised of my mood swings... and then I turn around to see him... and he was FLAPPING HIS EARS... he laughed and said that he was exploring how funny my voice sounded while he flapped his ears!!! Isn't that the STUPIDEST THING ON earth??? I know this can sound extremely funny, and I did start to laugh, but then I felt SOOOOOOOOO LONELY!! How can he be so insensitive?? And those kinds of things have happened once, and once again in these weeks... I feel so estranged from him. And I am so, so, so angry at him. A week after I lost the baby, he told me he was considering a surrogate mother... I don't mean to offend anyone, but I would never consider that option... and it was SO HURTFUL for me to hear that from him just a few days after the m/c... it felt as if he said "you are of no use... let's try with a woman that 'works'." Gosh, I am so angry and sad, and frustrated, and LONELY.
Any suggestions?

[7preg3b]

Men are normally idiots..  They just come out of their shell to be nice once in awhile.  Mine makes some really insensitive remarks..  It drives me crazy.  He thinks hes being funny..  Its just not..   Last night I actually thought to myself ,,why do I want a child with him??  They are lucky to have us..  They need a reality check..  

[Latrice414]

I would like to say im sorry for your loss, i also had a missed m/c this june at 10weeks1day

How long have you been married?  Yes those are very hurtful things to say and do. During a m/c women are so vulnerable. I always considered myself to be a strong woman, until the day i had a missed m/c 2 days after my 32nd birthday this june. I was a wreck and didnt no left from right, i didnt no my eyes could shed so many tears, and DF was fine, as if it was ok, he said dont worry we can try again. TRY AGAIN, what about how i am feeling right now. My father actually had to talk to him and tell him how some women feel,what they need at that time, etc. To be honest, DF had no clue why i was so sad.  But we had a long talk, and he let me talk about how i felt and held me.  Even now, i get so sad when i see a BFN i go back into a slight depression and dont want to be bothered, he ask me whats wrong and i say nothing, bcuz i dont think he would really understand.

You should try talking to your husband and see how he feels about the m/c, a lot of men dont like to talk about there feelings and want to be strong for the woman.  Ask him why he suggested a surrogate.  Let him no the things he did/said really hurt your feelings, make him read up on m/c's, thats what i had DF do.