miscarriag at 12 weeks...

[jellybeanforever]

I'm a 40 year old mother of 2 childern. With one miscarriage in between. I found out I was pregnant  and at 12 weeks miscarried . My youngest child is 9 and oldest is 21. I delivered the baby and sac completely in tact. The doctors examined the baby visually and didn't see anything visually wrong with the baby. Before I delivered the baby the placenta was delivered first. All through the 12 weeks the doctor said everything was fine and that I had a very slim chance of a miscarriage since I had gone that far. I heard babies heart beat and movement on Friday and saturday miscarried. I'm very confused as to why this would of happened. I want to be pregnant again right away and feel like I don't have the time to wait since I'm 40 is it safe. I did not have d/c. After my first miscarriage I was pregnant before I went back in for a check up. I just don't know if my age is a factor this time around or not. Please help me to understand what could of happened and if its safe to try again....

[melipops]

Hi, i had three miscarriages similar to yours but they died in utero and unfortunately my body didn't expell them. I now have had two children since this happened. We already had two before hand. It was very confusing and horrible. I found out later that I had rhuematoid arthritis and my body was attacking these babies as if they were a virus. Fortunately my RA controled itself enough for these last two to make it. Don't give up Good luck Take Care

[rccresswell]

I am so sorry for your loss and I know exactly how you felt because I experienced the same thing.  I was pregnant with my third and miscarried him at 14 weeks.  One minute I was pregnant and the next day he was born sleeping.
The doctors did tests on him and said there was nothing they could find but just that things happen for a reason.  I don't know what happened to my little man and unfortunately I won't and these are things we just need to accept in time.  I must say I am about about a year and a half past my miscarriage and it hurts as much as it did when I lost him.  
I decided to wait one cycle after my misccarriage and fell pregnant the next month.  I now have an almost 5month old I am completely in love with.  Don't give up hope and if you ever need to talk I am always here :)  Takre care of yourself