miscarriage, gwtting over it???

[annie_c]

On the 5th of Jan 2011, I found out that I was pregnant. I had three pregnancy tests to show for it. I felt fine the whole of the day. The next day, on the 6th, I woke up to find a brown liquid type coming out of my vagina. I went to the nearest clinic and the nurses told me that it was just my inside that was cleaning itself up. on the 7th, I went back to the clinic to do some blood tests. I felt fine the whole day. At about 4pm on the 8th Jan, I started bleeding and we rushed to the hospital, where the doctors did blood tests on me, the result came back as 153, which the doctor said was very low and they couldn't tell if I was still pregnant or not, nor tell me what was happening to me. They prescribed me some pregnancy hormone pills and sent me home, still bleeding. The next day, I was still bleeding, just not as severely as the previous day. In the afternoon I started experiencing heavy cramps and diarrhea. I then noticed blood clots coming out and we rushed to the hospital again. The doctors did blood tests again and the result showed 117 which was even lower. The conclusion the doctors gave me : they still couldn't tell if I was still pregnant or not. They sent me home again, still bleeding, giving me a prescription for pain killers. On the 10th Jan, I went to a gynecologist who performed a sauna on me and showed me an empty stomach, I had miscarried the previous day, yet none of the doctors picked up on it. I never found out how far I had been, I worked out approximately 6 weeks.... There was no need for a D&C as I was still in the early stages. I have serious cramps now after this and I don't know what it could be. The gynecologist said that if I had come directly to her, there could've been a chance to save the fetus. If the doctors knew they couldn't help me, why didn't they refer me to someone who could and maybe something could have been done - I'm  20 years old, shattered and somehow feel betrayed by the medicals. How do I get over this loss? And the feelings of feeling responsible for the loss of the fetus???
  

[mumsy1977]

im so sorry for your loss its a terrible thing to happen i was 10 weks and lost mine between xmas and new year it pointless beating yourself up over it ,it just wasnt meant to be no amount of bed rest of medication could av stopped this and it totally out of the gynies hands too once a miscarrige starts theres nothing we or medics can do to stop it .it will take time to get over this and some take it etter than others i just got myself to believe that my baby was too good for this earth and they needed a special angel and i know that mine is been looked after by my gran and that gives me comfort im happy and moving on ,i have four really healthy children who need me and i thank my lucky stars that iv been gifted with them you will in time try again and you will look bak at this and realise that you too had a baby that was just too good for this earth and they too needed you special baby for an extra special angel i hope you can get thru this and be strong strong enough to move on xx

[smc1988]

Its very hard i know i have been thru that that 4 times and its so hard to get over you are always saying its my fault but its not. it will take time to get over something like this. I wish you the best of luck..........................