what point in your life did you miscarry?

[annaleesmom]

I was wondering about all of you who have had miscarriages multiple or single.  

when you miscarried did you already have a child?  (live full term)

was this your first miscarriage?

I guess I'm wondering why????  Why me?  why us?  when this happens numerous times to a woman, does that woman ever have other full term babies?

I feel terrible for all of you who have experienced this multiple times.   I have a 4yr old now, and just miscarried at 13 weeks.  what are the chances of this happening again?  I'm becomming really scared that I won't have another chance.

for those of you who have had more than one, what does your doctor say?

How much medical reasearch have they done on this?  So many of us are suffering broken hearts.

[Trixie09]

I am on mc number 7.

[Dawn37718]

I had 4 miscarriages before I had my healthy baby and then another miscarriage then another healthy baby and now I am in the middle of a miscarriage

So to time line this.....  I was 17 to 19 with the first 4 miscarriages

20 when I had my son that same year I miscarried another time

and then had my other son at 26

I am now 34 and having  another miscarriage.

So the hope is there no matter what happens. I don't know why some of us have to go through this but don't ever give up hope that you will have your wish to be a mommy!
wishes really do come true!

[Mikeal'smom]

I have one little boy, my first pregnancy and it was perfect!  When he turned one my husband and I started trying again for number 2........ my son is now seven and we still do not have another child.  I have lost five pregnancies in those six years.  one was a blighted ovum, two were natural, and two were ectopic (lost both of my tubes), my most recent loss being Aug. of 09.  Now if I want to get pregnant again IVF is our only option.  I am only 29, and for all intensive purposes I am sterile.  We still have not been given any kind of reason for all of our losses.  Weather you already have a child or not, the loss is heartbreaking.  I wish you all the best!

[usuk]

sorry for your loss. i had 3 MCs all w/in 11 months. there is no cause and nothing in common with the losses. had all the tests and two different docs say it is just bad luck. no kids. age 38.  

[smr08]

My name is Lori and heres my story... I gave birth to my first son in 1987, perfect pregnancy and delivery, soon after his birth I was pregnant again and gave birth to my daughter in 1988, perfect once again. I decided to hold off for a few yrs before trying again, I didn't become pregnant again until 1995, but as fast as I found out I had a natural m/c. I became pregnant again soon after but it ended up being ectopic and I lost my tube. Once again I was pregnant and gave birth to a healthy baby boy in 1997. I figured for sure that he was my last....Surprise, last yr at 40 I was pregnant again, I had some problems at 5 wks with a small tear in my placenta but all was well at 8-9 weeks. I felt great and was sooooo excited to start again, and then my whole world was shattered, at my routine checkup at just about 5 months, we couldn't find a heartbeat, I was sent directly for an u/s which confirmed my worst nightmare, my baby was gone. I was admitted to the hospital the following day and induced, I delivered my beautiful baby boy early the next morning on Oct 17. I was able to spend several hours with him, but that just wasn't enough, I thought my life was over, how could I go on??? I stumbled across this forum and decided to join, I met the most amazing women and became close friends with them. It was all of them that helped me to get where I am today, i'm truly grateful to them. I started TTC again in Dec.  and hopefully my dream will come true soon. I'll never replace my son, but I have so much love in my heart to share that I knew this was the right decision for me. You will find peace and not dwell on the why's I promise, it just takes time. My motto is "I will not let fear win" Good luck to you...Lori

[mom.of.two]

I know exactly how you feel and I am so sorry for your loss. I have had three miscarriages in the past two years - after having two perfectly healthy girls who are now 6 and 3. I have recently been diagnosed with MTHFR and have to take extra folic acid, baby aspirin and a multivitamin every day for the rest of my life. I actually have four gene mutations. I never knew there was anything wrong with me until after my second miscarriage. I had just found out I was pregnant two years ago and before I could even get to the Dr, I had miscarried. I was just far enough with the second to see the heart beat and was so excited and after being reassured that everything was fine and looked normal, I miscarried the next day. My last one just recently happened. I tested positive on an HPT on 09/26 then miscarriage 09/29 a day before my 30th birthday. I was so sad and depressed that I couldn’t even show it to anyone. I just hid it and sucked it up and put on a smile anyway. I called my Dr. and they asked me to come in and I told them I couldn't deal with it a day before my birthday and that I would be fine but would come in if I didn't stop bleeding or had any problems. I was reassured this last time that everything would be fine once I started taking the supplements but it wasn't. Everyone says well look on the bright side; at least you already have two children. I love my girls and I am so thankful for them but hearing that almost makes it worst. Just because you already have children, it doesn’t make the pain of your loss any less. I always wanted a boy. Now, I would just feel absolutely blessed to have another healthy child - Boy or girl. I wonder the same thing. Will I ever have another chance? I feel like just a number to the Dr's. I feel like they don’t really understand. I have had several different Dr's and opinions since all of this happened. My heart is still broken.