An update for my forum family

[goofysmom1]

Well, I am signing the lease on my apartment today.  That is a relief.  I will be meeting with my lawyer on Monday to see if we are a fit (which I hope we are because I really like his paralegal and she does most of the communicating with the clients).  But, if I don't like him, or don't think that he will represent me appropriately, then I will continue looking.  Nice paralegal or not!

The "toad" as many of you are calling him(which makes me lol)  - is showing his true colors, and they aren't pretty.  I am doing my best to be civil at least until I am out of our house (which is in another 4 weeks)...but I find myself completely disgusted with him and his behavior...so keeping that to myself is another challenge!!!

I am downsizing from 2800 sq. ft to 616 sq ft. with 2 large dogs and a cat...that is a major challenge!  Sorting through 12 years of stuff/momentos/gifts etc. and trying to decide what I can take, what will be sold at a moving sale and what can be stored.  A very difficult task.

But, I am hanging in there.  I have a lot of support around me and I think am doing the best that I can considering the circumstances.  

I have decided that I am going to write 2 books when this is all over - one is the "Divorce diet" and the second is "The Ultimate Divorce Planner" (think wedding planner, only for divorce!).  I have lost 10 pounds in 10 days and trying to keep track of all of the questions, calls, appointments, papers etc especially with memory issues....I need a planner!!!  :)

Hoping you are all well & sending you hugs of friendship,
Chrisy

[supermum_ms]

Sounds like your doing a good job focusing on whats most important, you should feel proud of your self.

Your old house will now be called "TOAD HALL"

Dont forget we are here at all times of the day and night, so if your having a moment we will be here for you!

Cheers.........JJ

[tonyad]

  Sounds like you are putting your "physical" ducks in a row.  
While you are working quite hard to put your "Mental" ducks in a row, you are doing awesome. Support is such an important part of your situation.  I know the hardest part
is when you have down time and are alone, perhaps bedtime. Stay strong!

    Your attitude is awesome! You are still in my thoughts and prayers :)
~Tonya

[candy158]

Hi Chrissy, I am very proud of you with the way you are handling this.  Good for you that you are getting out of this situation.  It does sound like he is a Toad, I love Lulu comments on that.  I hope you can keep this civil because it can be so tough if it gets ugly.  

Keep posting, we are all here to support you, and make you laugh about it if we can.

Good job for standing on your own. !!!  

*HUGS*
Candy

[Lulu54]

Chrisy,
If you have any doubts, please go back and read your original post and everyone's replies.  There was a ton of great information in there and I hope you will follow it as it fits your situation.  

Good for you if you can take the high road - I'm afraid being under the same roof for me wouldn't work at all.

All this talk of toads makes me think of my Girl Scout troop's favorite song (a long time ago when I was a leader) - sung to the tune of O'Tannenbaum.

Oh Tom the toad, oh Tom the toad
Why did you try to cross the road?

Oh Tom the toad, oh Tom the toad
Why did you try to cross the road?

You used to be so green and fat
but now you're red and oh so flat

Oh Tom the toad, oh Tom the toad,
Why did you try to cross the road.

Here's to your toad trying to cross that road!

later,
Lulu

[PastorDan]

Praying that God's presence will be as real as ever for you throughout this troubling time.  We're all here if you need us.

[HVAC]

Chrisy,
  Sorry you having to deal with this. In the end it will be a good thing. You certainly do not want someone who is not on your team. Make sure your lawyer fights for you.

Take care,
Alex