this is such a lovely piece of advice...and I think everyone should listen too it and enjoy their holiday time...
all the best
I promise I will continue to work on it and LET IT GO! It began last year when I threw in the towel and cancelled Cookiefest- an all day baking marathon with girlfriends that we have done for years. I said then it was too much and I was too tired. I had no idea I had MS but knew I couldn't face 100's of dozens of cookies (htat's no exageration!).
Then I wanted to cancel New Year's Day Cabbage Bowl - I make a 100 or so cabbage rolls even though I don't eat them. We have a huge open house and everyone comes and enjoys the work. My husband told people last year we were doing it so I was committed but this year is defintely out. I had to LET IT GO!
Traditions are a funny thing to LET GO but sometimes we have to for our own health.
Thanks for all of your good advice about surviving this holiday season.
Amen Sister! I have done just as you stated and let it go! I tend to put a lot of pressure on myself during the holidays - to bake...buy....etc to ensure that everything is perfect! I decided that this holiday season was going to be less stressful for me, so I have limited myself to doing only what is necessary. It is hard for me, and I struggle not to do more, mostly because I love to give! But I need to take care of me right now.
Your advice is so important - we need to remember to take care of ourselves - especially during this time of year when things are hectic and busy.
Thank you for the advice.
I'm blessed... I come from a very relaxed family that doesn't have much Christmas tradition... we just open presents... hey, we don't even have a tree (well, now I do miss that!) But really, we don't get to stressed about Christmas and that's nice.... and so it's nice to hear other's chime in and say "chill" when it comes to all the "hurry, rush, hurry".... really, christmas is all about family, and just relaxing anyways and everyones almost to busy to do that! :)
I hope everyone here is really enjoying this time of year, there is SOO much to enjoy... truly... the wonderful cocoa, the family, the songs and caroler's, and the lights and nativity scenes, and the symphonie's and choral's. :)Hmmmm... I love this time of year, and I think I'm appreciating it more this year than ever. :) Smiles!
Just another quick idea...a lot of people don't have a lot of family around to spend Christmas with and some people have too much family around at Christmas and they are a major cause of extreme stress! To avoid both situations here is an idea for you...There is a movie called "Marley and Me" that is opening on Christmas Day and being that I have read this book that was recommended by Spastic Ada I would seriously recommend it to put a smile on your face on Christmas Day! I know it seems a little strange to most of us to go to a movie on Christmas Day but hey...for some of us it will beat having to deal with the stressful garbage that you dread all year long don't you think???
Just an idea that I wanted to pass on for those of you in a funk as to what to do for the holidays!!
Lots of Hugs,
Great advise but us newcomers its still hard, I have 3 kids (12,9,6) they want Santa to come just like any year. My husband is great-he tells me do what you can and don't worry about the rest.
TRYING TO LET GO!
I can appreciate that it IS difficult when you have young children and it's understandable that they would still expect Santa to come as usual. Perhaps if that is what they are going to focus on the most you can drop something else that is traditional in your family or just change the way it is done. Like I mentioned earlier there are places that you can buy your baking rather than having to do it yourself and while it's not exactly what you have come to love and expect from yourself, it's not that bad and we can live with it. As far as the gifts go, I find that wrapping takes a lot of work and is exhausting...do you have a few friends that you can have over for coffee one evening after the kiddies have gone to bed to help you wrap? It is amazing how much quicker it is to have some help and it will help to save a bit of your energy. If you don't have any friends that you want to impose on at such a busy time of year...there is usually a seniors centre at the local malls that open a gift wrapping service for a donation or a minimal fee and some of them are even free! Look into this as well as a stress reliever for you.
If anyone has any other ideas on how to beat the holiday rat race, why not share your ideas with our fellow members. There are many stress beaters out there but most of us are not aware of them...I can relate and I don't want to see anyone have to go through what I did last year. My hubby said last night, "IYou are so different than last year, not stressed at all and you seem to be enjoying getting ready for the holidays!". I have to admit that I am also feeling a lot better than last year but I am looking at it differently as well and not putting so many expectations on myself and I am not worried about it either. I figure that the people that matter in my life know what my limitations are and they are understanding and as for the other people that don't get it...well that it their problem and until they do figure it out I can get by without them and their stress in my life.
Lots of Hugs,
Thanks again for the positive outlook and approach to the holidays. I can't believe it is only two weeks until Christmas. Not even enough time left to work up a good case of panic and anxiety! LOL
Ho ho ho,