Really need suggestion on this...

[anuj1]

Doctor said to avoid heat bcoz heat is danger for ms patient. At night while sleeping I asked to my wife to hug me but she didn't bcoz she think boby contact produce heat and it may also danger. Is it true?  How do you sleep with your patner? Guys this is a kind of serious question for me so plz need a suggestion .

[essdipity]

Well, there's heat and then there's HEAT. Bodily contact during intimacy does not damage you in any long-term way. It is not dangerous. Sometimes it could be a little uncomfortable, but that's all.

Long ago, before there were good diagnostic measurements, doctors used to submerge their suspected MS patients in tubs of hot water to see if the MS symptoms got worse. Usually they did, because a rise in core body temperature causes faulty nerves to function even more poorly. After these hot baths the symptoms would gradually subside. In at least one case, though, a patient's worsened symptoms became permanent, so this test  then was considered dangerous and was discontinued.

That was an extreme measure, though. Normal bodily contact between people is a very different thing, and in fact is important pyschologically. Please assure your wife that she will in no way hurt you by being intimate.

ess

[NormanG22]

I would have to agree with ess, my wife sleeps so close to me that I can't move.  It is her way of keeping an eye on me even during sleep to insure I'm ok.

Norman

[PastorDan]

Just make sure she doesn't have any other reasons for not wanting you that close.  Bathe, brush teeth, treat her well throughout the week, etc.

[Lulu54]

And please learn a bit more about heat sensitivity - it may cause us temporary problems, but very rarely will it do long-term damage.  If she doesn't want to listen to you (or us!) perhaps a chat with your doctor would help reassure her.  

[rendean]

Hi and welcome since we have not met!

At the top of this column is a search  "Search this community" which  will let you search for topics that are in the archives, old posts that have some great information.

Lu told you to learn some more about heat sensitivity so I am providing you with a link to a old post I found using the search tool. It even includes a post by one of our  founding members who has since retired. Her name is Quix and  is a retired pediatrician. Retired due to MS.Heather is also a retire member from the orginial core group and provides some excellent information.

Here is the link:

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Multiple-Sclerosis/Heat-and-the-connection-to-MS/show/485822

I hope this extra information will help you!

Best,
Ren

[kwarendorf]

Tell her she's got to come up with a better excuse :-)

[anuj1]

Thanks to all for response me...

[Lulu54]

There is a web conference coming on February 14 -valentines day-about relationships and intimacy.  The sponsor is the United  Spinal  association which also covers MS

http://sg.unitedspinal.org/

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3:00 PM - 4:30 PM EST
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Did you ever wonder “if intimacy is so easy, why are so many books about it”? Or “why does everyone else know exactly what to do and I’m the only one with questions”?  Well, you’re not alone.

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