Aww shucks, you are really going to make me cry :-)
I accept that hug...gosh it's great to have friends...they are priceless! Angels with Invisiable Wings. That's what all of you are to me....
Oh how my eyes welled up with tears reading your post. Such heartbreak and agony you have felt. At least my family supported me after only a short time of not believing me and this year they've been behind me probably 95% of the time.
Thank you for your hugs - please accept mine in return.
Mel :-)
I have to stop being someone with MS and be a mother here....I wish that I could hold each and every one of you, that have not received a diagnosis of "something" and are still going through limbo land. My heart just breaks for all of you. I really mean that from the bottom of my heart.
When I was going through my limbo, I was hoping that my first Neurologist had it all wrong. The second Neuro I went to, was highly regarded as the best in his field, where I lived. So when he "took away" my diagnosis; while I did go through some shock, I thought, "Oh yeah, I just knew it coulldn't be MS. I am finally going to be treated with something that only requires a little pill everyday." I started to think of myself as lucky, cause this doctor said it wasn't MS. Then I started to get mad. This doctor wasn't trying to "find out" what was wrong with me. He wanted to retreat me for my previous carpal tunnel syndrome, by doing NCS and EMG's. He thought I needed another operation. I would go to him about all of the symptoms I was having all over my body. The heaviness in my legs, the spasms, the "water" running down my legs, the tingling and numbness going back and forth through my scalp on my left side. I told him that I was having trouble with my speech. Sometimes the words didnt' come out right. Or I couldn't find the words at all. The balance problems, the fatigue, the intolerance to heat, how my symptoms got worse when I was fighting on infection.
He explained away the lesions in my brain. He said they were from past migraines. He said the lesion in my spine was a "flow void." An "artifact." In other words, it was not a lesion at all. I begged for something to help with my spasms...he presribed a drug for Parkinson's disease. He would not prescribe anything for pain. I went back and forth with this for three years. I was pulling my hair out. My family said that I was "melodramatic, my ex would even to tell me to "shut up and stop complaining." "I didn't have MS, so I should stop my comlaining."
I was so depressed. I was in so much pain. No one would listen. No one would help me. My depression started to deepen. I began not to care. I stayed in bed all day, I didn't want to eat, I began to hate myself. I was ashamed to go anywhere. I was accused of being a hypochrondriac. After all, one of the top Neurologists in the state was saying that it was not MS. (By the way, he is now on a "bad doctor" list on the Internet and his practice is almost non-existent)
I truthfully, didn't care whether I lived or died. No one believed me anymore. I suffered alone. Then a miracle, I dropped into an MS forum on the Internet; told my story and was advised to "find another doctor and fast." How was I going to do this? I had to have a referral to get in to see a specialist. I finally made an appointment with my family doctor and we sat there for an hour, discussing what was happening to me. He finally found me a Neurologist in Charlottesville, VA., at UVA Medical Center. I had my appointment.
Then came the battery of tests. All of them, all over again. By this time, I was in a hell of a relapse. The MRI's showed active lesions, not 7 of them anymore, but more, now in many places in my brain and that spinal lesion? It lite up like a Christmas tree. A spinal tap was immediately ordered. Positive for oligliconal bands. (sp) I was back in the Neuro's office within one week. I was told there, that they wanted to start me on Avonex immediately. "The "MS" had gone untreated long enough." The doctor's at UVA filled a complaint with the medical board about my previous Neuro and believe me, they got action.
I was given medication to help control my spasms, my pain, my agony. My family and friends seemed to keep the phone ringing with their apologies for doubting me. My mood lifted, despite having a diagnosis of MS...again!
I've been there and done that. That's the reason for this post. I DO understand where 'limbo land" exists. I wish for each and every one of you, going through that limbo, to be lucky enough to find that one doctor who will not stop until they find out what is wrong. I want resolution for each and every one of you, no matter what medical problem is finally discovered.... My heart aches for you...
I'm with you. I understand. I only want what is best for all of you. As a mother, I again say, I wish I could hug each and every one of you that is going through this uncertainity. It's awful. I've lived it with you..
Best Wishes, Heather
My biggest problem with the not knowing is not having any tests done to rule anything out. I'm left with probably not MS but can't say for sure. The only tests done were the MRI without contrast and a leg nerve test. This was at a MS clinic. When I asked about ruling other stuff out all I got from him was that they don't do that. They only deal with MS itself. The problem was that the first neurologist who did the in-office testing and history suspected MS although she said there were also mimics that should be looked at. When ego maniac head neuro came in, he blew at her for saying anything at all to me about her suspicions and that he was the one who would decide. After that it was down hill for me. The first neurologist is no longer there. I am now trying to find a new neuro.
I would be quite happy to have my old life back. I don't want to have anything wrong with me but I know that there is. The question is what? I'm frustrated at not knowing what I am fighting. Is it MS, I don't know. Do I want MS, does anyone? The ones suffering from it I'm sure don't want it. I just want to know what is wrong so that if there is treatment to help me then great, if not then I'll have to deal with that. But when you don't know at all and won't be helped due to ego problems that is sad indeed.
If this was just a nuisance problem then it would be not so bad, but its not. It's affecting my ability to work and live a normal life. I'm not a chronic complainer, and usually the last place you will find me when I'm sick is at the doctor's office. But this has me worried. I know in my heart something is not right and it is slowly getting worse. I try to exercise patience but it's not exactly my strong suit. The reason for me on this forum was to try to get information both on MS and other mimics. Not only did I find that but I also found a wonderful support system.
I thank all for their comments, advice and support. For those of us undiagnosed, yes we need to be strong and patient but when things get us down, it is nice to know we can come on here and let loose and ask questions. To those of you diagnosed, your advice and strength and comfort that you show in spite of your disease is inspiring.
My thoughts and prayers are with you all
Moki
Not only am I open to other possibilities, but I am actually HOPING it is something else...
...like, "hey, you have blah blah in your back, go to a chiropractor."
That wouldn't explain the optic neuritis, but hey, some people just get it. I really think I have a neck problem and that's it. I just was told they were doing an eval for MS by neuro, so I wanted to find out more about MS. Now I really hope that's not it!
...but I still need answers!