embarrased - please help

[grannyhotwheels]

Hi all,
Well, just when I thought I've had the worst of it something else happens to prove me wrong.  This is so embarrassing that if your a guy please don't gross out, okay?  

I've always had a lot of problems controlling my bladder and I have to wear the poise panties all the time, or else I would be doing laundry like 20 times a day.lol  Now though, it's even worse than that.  I don't seem to have bowel control.  The weird thing is I don't even know that I have done it until I go to the restroom..

Why can't I feel anything?  Even a little tummy cramp or the actual act of going potty.  I am so embarrassed that I refuse to leave the house.  I have a doctor's appointment on Jan. 3, but I'm freaking out now.

Also, can someone tell me what the withdraws are for Cymbalta.  I quit cold turkey.  It wasn't by choice either..

I'm really in a bind hear ya'll.  What can I do?  If anyone suggest crying then don't worry because that's all I've been doing since  Saturday.

I'm really scared here so any suggestions will help.  I love ya'll so much and  please have a very Merry Christmas and  a Happy New Year.

I'll be praying,
Carol

[RIDDICK_777]

It aint as bad as this all thre time by the way, but is is small and often

fergot to mention the RING STING  lol,  

David.

[RIDDICK_777]

Sorry if this is too much information, but just wanted to say it like it was

David.

[RIDDICK_777]

WOW what an article, Carol i dont normally respond to questions at the moment as i am all new to this and dont even know what is going on with me myself atb the moment, like everyone said no need to be embarrassed about it, i deeply sympathise with you in all of this as it must be awful for you

i hope you manage to get something sorted out with what is going on as i really feel for you in this situation, i am amazed at what i have read in this article and would love to sack my docs and take on quix instead she is amazing

well Carol i have the opposite problem but have picked up on some interesting things mentioned on here i have really bad constipation which hasb caused me many and embarrasing moments, i did not even like going places or being around others when this was happening as i was very paranoid about the whole thiong

i was very conscious that people would notice that i was having to frequenyt to the toilet constantly all the time and i have suffered by trying to hold myself or having to make up my excuses and dash off not a very nice thing to deal with whatsoever

although i felt like i needeed the toilet constantly and was really suffering holding it in when i got there well i was blowing off real bad wet farts, sometimes you would think there was a tommy gun going off hey not greatb in a public toilet especially when ya know its gonna blow and ya try ya hardest to let it out quietly i always tended to wait a little while afterwards giving others chance to get awayb so they didnt know it was me how awful

but hey feeling like i needed to go for a you know what but then just having wet farts an plenty of gas strange eh

not only that but when i want to go and i feel like it is there well the pressure is on i really strain and push veins bulging in my head yet the baby aint coming out for the life of me even though i nfeel its right there

after a good lengthy period putting the pressure on and giving it full guns next thoing ( pa ding ) and then you turn to see what looks like a raisin in the bottom of the pan, well going through all of that just for that and why do i feel like it was going to be something more than that yet thats all it was making me feel i was desperate to go

not just that sometimes i go and you manage to start getting it out but then it stops there the thing is thatb it is there just it aint coming and you have to try get rid of what is there and yes you can guess you know it is going to be one of those smeary babies

half a toilet roll later and a flush inbetween because you dont want to block the bog, but yet it seems as much as you wipe you still manage to smear that paper, you manage to get clean and feel like ya still need to go

next time it happens think about me putting on the pressure and looking like my heads gonna blow off i hope this puts a smile on ya face, i lose count of how many times i have to go in a day and cant remember the last time i had a normal toilet small and frequent for me, yet i dream of the day when i feel i have just dropped a slippery log in one foul swoop with that lovely sigh of relief afterwards you know the on where you go ahhhh must be nice to go normally

bye Carol take care and hope you get better soon.

[Jazzyfizzle]

Hi Carol, I just wanted to send cyberhugs for you!  I can relate to 'accidents' but not from the process you are dealing with.

Take care now

Jazzy

[mooers777]

I have the same problem with being able to afford my meds some of which are 400.00 a bottle!

I learned about the PPA you know that tv ad with Montel Williams? I got them to pay for some of mine. The web address is : www.freemedicinerevolution.com

If the doesn't work you can go to : www.pscard.com it is a discount card that I have and you can print it out on your computer and use it until they send the permanant on to you.

I priced it for you and with the card it drops it down to $119.57 I know it not much but as it was said above you can get a weeks supply and still get a discount.

You can use the print out card right then.
I know its not much but everything helps.

I am sorry your going through all of this ****!!!! I hope I helped even if it is only in a small way.

Your friend,
Kathy

[Heather3418]

Wow...this is one response from Quix that needs to be put at the top of the list of the most important, informing posts, she has written.  She explains this EXAcTLY as my general practioner explained to me was happening to me.  EXACTLY, almost verbatim.

I am sorry S that I gave you the wrong information.  Please accept my apologies.  

My doctor says that my rectum stays so full that I have now develped a hemorrhoid that may need later treatment, just from all the straining.  She has put me on a stool softner to take DAILY and has told me "not to put off any signal to go, no matter where I am when I get that signal."  She told me exactly what Quix says, the rectum becomes distended and rather than go through discomfort of trying to go, I put it off.  I have come very, very close to having to go to the ER for manual extraction.  I am sorry for being so blunt, but this is what can happen.

In my case, it has been determined that the pain medication and medication for spasm control has caued this constipation.

Extra fluids along with the stool softner has helped a great deal.  Good old prune juice can keep things moving after you get rid of that initial hard stool.  Hey my grandmother drank a small glass every morning and the old bird lived into her 90's...so maybe our grandmother's knew more than we realized.

Good luck to you S.  Sounds like we are in the same boat...or would that be the same "potty predicament?"

Feel better, Heather