Small Head

Question

Hi, I am a boy of 18 years from Italy, and my English isn't that good so please forgive eventual grammatical mistakes, the problem I am going to bring to your attention could seem stupid to you, I feel stupid too asking it, but it is a big cause of anxiety and frustration for me so I confide in your seriousness to have the answers that I havent found surfing on the net.

I would like to point out that I don't think I've completed my physical development because I don't have a beard or chest hair, in addition to a very young looking face. I'm 1x78(metres) for 63kg. And the heads of my parents, my father in particular, are perfectly normal if is that enough to exclude genetic issues.
Recently I was told by friends, etc that my head is very small, so I decided to measure it and found that the circumference is 52 cm(20 inches and half), so in fact rather small, please tell me if:
1) Should I really care about it? Is that somehow related to my IQ(even if I kinda doubt about it)
2) (more important) is it POSSIBLE that my head will grow a little more? Or am I "condemned" not wear adults hats for the rest of my life?
3) What causes a small head like mine?

I should add that no doctor has ever told me anything about microcephaly, then at least on this point I think im OK(?)-
Any information related to physical development generally, and to possible genetic causes that may have brought me to "not to develop the skull" (is that possible?) will be more than welcome, even any tips to grow more if there are some, also please feel free to ask me anything you may consider useful to help me placate those fears.

Allow me to precede a possible answer, no doubt I will grow my hair to make my head look bigger :D

THANK YOU VERY MUCH for your time .

FurballsMom · Accepted Answer

The fact that you're asking these questions and you are reasoning as well as you are tells me that your IQ is completely normal or even above average.  Your skull size has nothing to do with your IQ.  There are people with skull size similar to mine who have below normal IQ, so the size of the skull has absolutely nothing to do with your IQ.  I know someone with a small skull like yours who clearly has an above average IQ.  The real problem is how people treat or mistreat anyone who is viewed as "different" in any way.  That is why you have to get past what other people think and see yourself as a normal and good person.  My friend with the smaller than average skull size has difficulty in finding hats that fit, too.  She often has to go to the kids' department, too.

It's funny how society views women with smaller sized skulls compared to men with smaller sized skulls.  It's a society problem and it is not about your value as a human being.  The root of the problem really stems from how we view ourselves through the eyes of other people, and the feelings do run deep.  I know from experience that you have to feel good about yourself and your value as a contributing member to human society.

If you still have a small skull at age 19, you are not likely to gain a lot of size to your skull as an adult.  This is precisely why you have to find that hope you're looking for from within yourself.  

You have to keep convincing yourself that it doesn't matter what those other people think.  I think that applying what Caryopteris suggested will help you out a lot.  In time you will find that she is right and that this hat size issue you are so concerned with will no longer matter or will matter less so that it won't be the first and foremost concern in your life.

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FurballsMom · Answer

Most likely it is simply genetics that plays a role in what size your skull is just like genetics determines your eye color or your skin color.

Valler · Answer

Im sorry, I wanted to say Points 2 and 3.

Valler · Answer

Caryopteris and FurballsMom, thank you very much, you gave me two really interesting points of view of the problem, really appreciated and useful, but I badly need answers about the points 1 and 2 of my question, HOPE someone else could help me about it

Thanks

FurballsMom · Answer

I wouldn't worry about it.  I've met lots of guys with smaller than average skull size.  I never thought there was anything wrong with them.  As was already stated, ignore those other guys poking fun at you.  Don't let the teasing destroy your confidence.  There is nothing wrong with you.  If we all had the same shoe size or the same hat size there wouldn't be any reason to go looking for the right size of shoe or hat.  Whoever decided that certain sizes are "average" and certain sizes are for the kids' department must be the same person who decided that anything larger than a certain circumference can only be the size for men when it comes to finding hats for women.  It's downright annoying because I can never find a classy hat for women.  All because of what hat manufacturers decided for me.  The only way around it is to have hats custom made, which I can't afford.  The fact of the matter is, just because there is a size range that manufacturers call "average" doesn't mean that anyone with a smaller or larger shoe or hat size is not normal.  Don't let the hat manufacturers decide for you whether you are normal or not, because they don't know what they're talking about.

Caryopteris · Answer

Honestly that's about the same size my boyfriend has.  He stands about 5'7" and it's just one of those things like having a big nose or tiny hands and feet, so long as your intelligence is on track.  EVERYBODY has something that sets them apart.  What matters is whether or not you can decide to be okay with it.  Sure, it might come up now and then, but generally people are just looking for comedic relief.  Many nice people love to tease people they like.  My boyfriend is EXTREMELY popular.  Everybody wants his attention all the time, and I have to fight the other women off because he started working out at my request and he has a very slim, muscular body.  That's what turns people's heads and impresses them.  So do like he does and optimize what you have and enjoy this little quirk you have.  Thank your lucky stars you have a normal brain and whatever else you have going for you, because there are no guarantees in life and you could lose what you have at any time.  Then you will wish you relaxed and enjoyed your abilities and assets while you could.  Honestly, you can fake an outgoing, confident personality.  People will be attracted to you and you will get the positive feedback you are looking for.  And now and then you can entertain your friends by trying on hats and laughing together over your quirk.  This sort of openness fosters trust and bonding between people.

Valler · Answer

*PS: I didn't know where to post this question, please tell me if you think another category would be more appropriate.

Small Head

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