Hi, I am a 15 1/2 year old girl and for the past month I have been dealing with disturbing thoughts about my sexual orientation. Firstly, I would like to say that I completely support the LGBTQ+ community and have nothing against them. But the thoughts I have are driving me insane! I have always thought of myself as a straight, heterosexual girl, I always had crushes on boys, imagined myself going on dates, getting married to them and having kids. How this all started is when I started to think about if I am acting like a lesbian. So the thing is that I am a very anxious person, and I overthink a lot. I have a very hard time making friends, this year, I decided to get closer to one of the girls in our class (as friends) because I didn’t have any friends and I genuinely just wanted to have someone who I can talk to and not feel alone. So now we are best friends and I really enjoy her company, she has always been there for me. Problem is that a few months ago, we were playing truth or dare with our friend group and they asked her out of everyone here, who would you kiss, and I kind of wanted her to say my name, she didn’t and I didn’t think anything of it later, until now. I don’t know why I had that thought, I just thought that if she said my name, it would mean that we are really close friends, nothing else, but now, my brain keeps on thinking no you said that because you have sexual thoughts about her and it makes me so anxious and panicked. I am so scared. Also, because I am a huge overthinker, I keep on worrying about how I am going to lose her and just get distant because it has happened so many times and I just don’t want to keep on losing friends. But one day, I thought to myself why do I care so much if we talk everyday or not? Why do I keep on overthinking everything that I say or she says? Why does it affect me so much? And then it hit me, wait but what if I am lesbian/bi? And that thought has been killing me eversince. I have started to question everything about my past and my actions. There are 3 main things that make me think that I am not straight: 1. I used to watch lesbians making out and I used to get aroused by it but I never thought anything of it because I was so sure that I was straight. 2. When I was in grade 5, there was this girl who was in grade 9 and I really wanted to be her friend, she cared about me a lot and every day, I used to look forward to seeing her, I was kind of obsessed with her - again I didn’t think much of it but now I have started to think oh what if she was my crush and I never realized it until now? 3. The story I told you about my best friend and the truth or dare story. I honestly don’t know what to think anymore, I have had 4 panic attacks this past month just because of these thoughts, I can’t even study. When it all began, I used to feel so nauseous and lost my appetite. Also, before all of this, I never used to think about having sex with a woman, I found it disgusting but since I have had these thoughts, I have convinced myself that I am a lesbian and I will never enjoy or find the opposite sex attractive anymore. I spend all day on these thoughts and then I check pictures of attractive women to see if I actually find them attractive. I can’t deal with these thoughts anymore, the uncertainty is killing me. I have promised myself that if I find out that I am anything but straight, I will kill myself. I can’t tell anyone about these thoughts because they will think I am actually a lesbian or bi and I really don’t want them to. I have convinced myself that I am in denial and because the things that I said were also mentioned in a post that I saw on signs that you are a lesbian/bi, I think I am that. And I really don’t want to be, I cannot deal with my thoughts anymore, I can’t sleep anymore, I am constantly stressed and anxious about how I feel and then I worry that no you are in denial, just accept them but that even makes me more anxious! Please help, I beg you, I am going insane, I want to go back to the way I was.