Why don't you tell your story because people with true HOCD may become very confused by your statement.
yea well im bisexual i found out the same way you did
I agree with Webbers on every account.
Think about regular porn this way....there is always girl on girl action in regular porn because guys like to see it. If a girl is watching it and doesn't fast forward through that part, that doesn't mean she is a lesbian even if it turns her on. What is really the turn on is the sex, not necessarily who is doing what to whom.
You have tried sex with a man which is more than most people with HOCD do. You put it to the test and came up lacking interest therefore you are not gay. And don't think because you did test out the theory that you are gay because honestly when this OCD stuff gets in our minds, sometimes we will do ANYTHING to get closure because we just want it to go away. This is how I view your test...a desperate attempt to get closure on the thought. Sometimes it works...other times the "what-ifs" just keep coming and that is when you need to seek out the help of a psychologist. Sometimes we just can't get out of the rut of irrational thinking without outside help.
Take care.
Dave, I think you should consider the possibility that you have HOCD. Here's why, because you had the thought, you tried it, and you realized you didn't like it. I'm far from an expert on the topic but it seems logical that one of the main things a gay person really enjoys is sex with someone of the same gender. I'm thinking that you can't be gay without liking that. And you don't, so there's that. But also, it's pretty normal to admire members of the same sex for their appearance. We are all visual and we appreciate things that we find attractive or beautiful. So you shouldn't feel weird about that.
I think you're normal to appreciate other guys for their appearance and I'm sure that doesn't mean you're gay. It doesn't sound like you're at all interested in having an actual relationship with another man, which is another key element for gay people to want.
Between the not enjoying sex with another guy and not wanting a relationship with a guy, I'm pretty sure that means you're not gay. I can't speak for you but purely based on the evidence I don't think you are. Try not to worry about it because you seem pretty normal to me.