My PCP has ordered me to ER

[Tuckamore]

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Pain-Management/Tucks-Father-Passes-Away/show/1242345

You can all view my update on the above post regarding my father and my turn in health. My PCP is concerned I may have a strangulated bowel and has ordered me to the hospital for evaluation.

My surgeon told me that this mesh was so large and extensive that it would never be repairable. Therefore I am a bit concerned about the results of the hospital testing and examination.  

I just wanted to let you all know what is happening. I will update you as pain and time permits.

~Tuck

[namnam46]

Hello Friend,

Tuck, we all tried our best to help but something was still missing and that was you.  :)
We are so glad that you are back and we want you to take it slow and easy and take as much time as you need. We just need to know that you will be alright as we all care so much for you and what you are experiencing right now!!!

I swear so much parallels with us, my Dad had to have his mesh repaired too!! Just take it easy.

It's SOOOOO good to hear from you...Sherry

[mellie4]

I'm new to this board, but I'm sorry to hear about your dad and your pain.  I had a very difficult time after my mom's death nearly four years ago.  My sister and I cared for her and we were lucky that she died at home, as she wanted.  But the stress of caregiving doesn't seem to really hit you until that responsibility is gone.  It's good that you're going to take care of yourself.  You need to after all you've been through.  And, again, very sorry for your loss.

[Tuckamore]

I saw my PCP yesterday. She wants me to consult the surgeon that implanted the mesh. She is agreeable that it can wait for now but doesn't want me to wait too long. The mesh is bulging and painful but the acute pain is gone.

You all are so right. I am licking my wounds and trying to recover, find myself again after years of being a caregiver. My PCP who lost her own father very similarly to mine said that it will get better every day. It's soon. Today makes just a week since his actual passing. It is better today than it was than and better than it was Monday.

I am going to follow my PCP advice. It is now time to take care of me as my father would have wanted.

You all did a great job in responding to posts on the forum while I have been away and during this time that I am not here as often as I would like to be.  Many, many thanks.  As I return more often please keep up your participation. WE, together are what make this forum great.

And again thank you for all your kind and comforting words. You are the best!

~Tuck

[namnam46]

I'm so glad that the damage was so much less than you first thought. Can't help but think your Dad's already watching over you!! :)  

Even with the estate you can still have time to take some time for yourself. I know because with my parents estates (even thou they were combined together) I still was able to take a little time for myself. Relax and start to learn to smile again (slowly).

You know we're VERY glad that you are back because we missed you so much BUT we understand if it's not as much as it was right now.

God Bless.....Sherry

[Jaybay]

Thank God you don't have to have surgery!  At least you got some good news there and they stopped the pain spike.  I crashed the same way in the days after Mom's funeral.  There comes a point where the body has simply had enough and it demands sleep and rest.

Another word of "wisdom": nothing much needs to be done regarding the estate right now.  There isn't anything concrete you can do in the next couple of weeks until the death certificates come in.  Take this time to lick your wounds and nurse yourself.  

Do let me know if there's anything I can help with regarding executing your father's will.  I've learned a lot under fire in the past month as executrix for my mother - mostly that the wheels turn very slowly.  Social Security is automatically notified, so there's no worry there.  If your dad had any other pension plan, go ahead and notify them so they can stop payments.  I found one for Mom that I didn't know about and now have to pay back one payment that was automatically deposited.  Well, they're just going to have to wait until the estate account is set up.  But enough of that.  Hugs to you, and I wish I had a box of kleenex to share with you.  :-)

[jamlws]

I am so glad you are ok. I don't blame you for saying you would do it all over again cause your are a great person and I know you would of did anything for your father. I am so glad they got the pain under controll. And that is so great you got some real sleep and I know that alone will make you feel alittle better. That is such good news. Take care of your self now and your health and family. I hope you do get some normal in your life now cause that is what you need. I wish you my best.
Jamie

[Tuckamore]

Hello All My Dear Friends,

The imaging and evaluation of the ER Physician(s) revealed two things, Kidney Stones, again and a few tiny tears of the mesh at the insertion sites. The IV opiates got the pain under control and stopped the cycle. Actually it is good news. No trapped intestines and no major tears. I will have a surgical consult down the road but once again all your prayers have helped. I have a follow up with my PCP this afternoon.

As Mollyrae suspected I have over done, pushed this broken body past it's capacity. I certainly exceeded my 5 lb weight limit with the many times I had to reposition my father in bed. I would do it again. And my body will heal as will my broken heart.

I slept last night, really slept for the first time in many weeks, possibly months. My ear was always "open" for my dad.

I am finally looking forward to finding some sense of normalcy in my life.

Today I am returning to MH although my time may be a bit limited as there is still so much to do with dad's estate and such.

Thank You All So Much,
~Tuck    

[opus88]

Oh Tuck I am so sorry you have to go thru this after all thats happened recently. You gave yourself so unselfishly now its time to look after yourself.
All the best of wishes and my prayers too.

[toolmaker]

More prayers on the way, my family  offers our condolences to yours.

[Sarajmt]

I am so sorry.  This is something you really didn't need.  I pray you don't need surgery.  My prayers are with you.

[jamlws]

Good luck tuck and we will be here waiting to see how you are. Take care of your self.
Your in my thoughts,
Jamie

[Mollyrae]

I was worried that you've over done it. And at the same time, who was going to do the caring for your Father. I certainly hope that you're not in need of surgery.

All my thoughts dear friend,
Molly

[geminigirl1963]

Please take care of yourself and know that all of our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Robyn

[namnam46]

We are all praying for you!!!! Please know that we are here for you and will always....Sherry