Hello all, thanks in advance for any and all advice you can offer. First a little background: I am currently 25 weeks pregnant with twin boys. Back on the first of August me and my two year old son moved in with my parents as I was placed on bedrest and my husbands schedule didn't allow for us to be home with all my restricitions. Everything had been going great - my family pitched in huge and when my mom started work again, my sister began taking him for two days during the week so I could relax (at the end of August). My bedrest was lifted at the beginning of Sept. but I have been instructed against, lifting, errands and only allowed light meal prep (basically things that will keep me on my feet a limited amount of time). All continued to be well until about two + weeks ago. I would be at my sisters to visit or to pick him up and he out of nowhere would push my 1yr old niece to the floor or pull at the 5yr olds hair. They seemed to be constantly at odds and fighting over toys ect.., which I know a lot of behavior is normal at his age. However, I have tried every form of discipline - time out with explanation, time out without explanation, time alone in a crib away from the other children and even spanking when warranted - the problem is with the hitting I feel it is counterproductive to spank him as punishment so we do ALOT of time in time out. He always apologizes right after but then 30 seconds later is doing it again!! I am being ridiculous or is this just the phase he is in right now. He even hits his older step brother which we try to ignore for the most part because my step son feels as though if he is walking in his direction he is trying to hit him but when toys get used as weapons in the process I always intervene!!! I have tried also explaining to my step son that he has to be careful how he plays with him because while my 10yr old has the motor coordination to engage in "pretend fighting" my 2yr.old certainly lacks some of the motor coordination to always prevent contact during "play".
Any ideas???? I know the living situation is not it's normal but it has been at least pretty routine for us since August so I don't know how much it would be a factor still if he were to be acting out.
I also had a question on potty training - we are at the beginning and only working on it when he shows interest but I noticed that his BM's are still mushy and not formed - shouldn't they be and could this have anything to do with his lack of interest at times because a mushy BM sensation is definately easier to ignore than one that is a little firmer and may require a little more effort to accomplish???
Okay I think that is it - thanks again in advance in case I don't get back to each of you personally!!!!