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sexual curiosity?
I walked into our living room today and caught my 2 year old daughter on top of my 5 year old son. He was holding her and humping her!
His pants were on but unbuttoned.
I explained to him that what he did was wrong because it was for grown ups only and not for children.
I also told him that people don't do that to their brothers or sisters.
He seems to be very interested in his sister and I know that he's touched her before and I thought I took care of it.
I've even caught him peeking at me in the bathroom throught the keyhole in the door.
Why is he so curious?
I no longer let them take baths together and they are not allowed to be naked unless they are taking baths or getting dressed.
He has shown her his private areas before. I just think that this is NOT normal curiosity and that somebody at some point has done something to him. I just have a bad feeling.
I'm not sure what else to do or what direction to go with this.
Should I talk to a doctor?
What else should I explain to both of them?
I'm so shocked and at a loss of what to do next.
His pants were on but unbuttoned.
I explained to him that what he did was wrong because it was for grown ups only and not for children.
I also told him that people don't do that to their brothers or sisters.
He seems to be very interested in his sister and I know that he's touched her before and I thought I took care of it.
I've even caught him peeking at me in the bathroom throught the keyhole in the door.
Why is he so curious?
I no longer let them take baths together and they are not allowed to be naked unless they are taking baths or getting dressed.
He has shown her his private areas before. I just think that this is NOT normal curiosity and that somebody at some point has done something to him. I just have a bad feeling.
I'm not sure what else to do or what direction to go with this.
Should I talk to a doctor?
What else should I explain to both of them?
I'm so shocked and at a loss of what to do next.
Lol- 'saved by the lord'. Ok- going on JUST THAT, obviously you have things in your past that you are not proud of otherwise you wouldn't have had to be "saved" (i.e. "beating the crap out of your neighbor") and you were an adult that knew better. Now you have LITTLE KIDS that you are saying should be "tooken" (seriously, use spell check) out of the house for acting in a way that they do not know is innappropriate. You are an uninformed ADULT, and you are wanting to punish uninformed CHILDREN? Educate yourself. Set your religious beliefs and personal beliefs aside for a moment and do research, look at the facts, not what you BELIEVE is right. Any child professional that you will speak with, any article you will read on normal childhood behavior tells you that children being curious about their private areas is 100% to be expected. Acting out in a way that seems weird to adults is what kids do in any situation- sexual or not. How do you suppose any person in this world discovers that they are sexual beings? It begins somewhere... right?!? I am not saying that a child "humping his sister" is acceptable, and yes, maybe that parent should speak with their Dr. and get some statistical facts, but by no means does it mean they have failed as a parent or that their kid has something wrong with him to warrant removing him from the home. Seriously,if one child ask another to take her pants down and play "I'll show you mine if you show me yours", is the kid that took her pants down the "victim" or is she probably just as curious as the kid that asked her to take them down? Why else would she pull them down instead of saying "no" and telling her parent? Does it make you a bad parent because your kid didn't understand to say "no"? I can only hope for you that your child exibits some behavior at some point that is 100% normal and you see that it has no reflection on you as a parent but is simply a kid being a kid.
I initially came on this page because my four year old daughter is exibiting curiousity and I wanted to do research on how I as the adult should handle it. At first I was very "creeped out" and didn't know what to do with her. After reading many posts, many articles, speaking with other parents and professionals, I am seeing that it is the parents that instantly want to call CPS, that are the problem. As bothered as I was by the problem personally, I read these posts and see that yeah, feeling disturbed by our kids acting out in a sexual way is normal, but their behavior is also normal. I refuse to be ignorant like the parents on here that instantly shout out that a SMALL CHILD has a problem and needs to be taken out of their home. YOU are the problem. Educate yourself, then educate your children and finally- stay away from my children. I'd hate to think that someone may call CPS on me because my child acted in a normal way because she is curious.
I initially came on this page because my four year old daughter is exibiting curiousity and I wanted to do research on how I as the adult should handle it. At first I was very "creeped out" and didn't know what to do with her. After reading many posts, many articles, speaking with other parents and professionals, I am seeing that it is the parents that instantly want to call CPS, that are the problem. As bothered as I was by the problem personally, I read these posts and see that yeah, feeling disturbed by our kids acting out in a sexual way is normal, but their behavior is also normal. I refuse to be ignorant like the parents on here that instantly shout out that a SMALL CHILD has a problem and needs to be taken out of their home. YOU are the problem. Educate yourself, then educate your children and finally- stay away from my children. I'd hate to think that someone may call CPS on me because my child acted in a normal way because she is curious.
I totally agree with you!. These people that say this is normal are crazy!> I cannot believe how many people think that it is not a big deal. It really upsets me! I have a daughter who was touched by a 3 and 5 year old neighbor boy. I beat the crap out of their mother. This was before I was saved and was living for the lord. I very much regret fighting her and I should have called the law and cps instead. I counseled my daughter and prayed many times. She acts normal and is very well behaved, sweet and smart. There are no issues but she still remembers it and knows that they were wrong but It still breaks my heart and I still cry and pray to this day!
You should have done something about this the first time he touched your daughter, and you should have put him in counseling/therapy. If I were you I would NEVER allow him to be alone with his sister or any child. Now you need to get both of them help!. They need counseling and this situation should be investigated by cps. Your son should be tooken out of the home and put in a special therapy home.
You should have done something about this the first time he touched your daughter, and you should have put him in counseling/therapy. If I were you I would NEVER allow him to be alone with his sister or any child. Now you need to get both of them help!. They need counseling and this situation should be investigated by cps. Your son should be tooken out of the home and put in a special therapy home.
I think he's just extremely curious. I advise you to just keep a closer eye on them when they play together and hopefully he'll grow out of that stage. I really think once he's older and understands everything a little more, he'll get out of this 'awkward' stage.
Don't worry though, there's nothing you have to be afraid of, or go calling doctors for. In fact, when I was younger, I had 2 cousins that were the same age as me which was around 7ish? They were brother and sister, and the sister would always come up to me and tell me things like how her brother kept on showing her his 'lower regions'. But then she'd go and pressure me into doing things with her as well. I'd be slightly confused and curious, so I'd go along with it. But as once we noticed it was wrong we stopped and never ever mentioned it again. Ever. It's sort of like something you'd wish you could go back in time and prevent. But hey, it happens.
But now that I think about it, I was never sexually curious back then. But my two cousins obviously were. And they constantly would say that they saw their parents "lying on top of each other" or "having sex" and "eeew". So that may have lead to the curiosity?
That's another good point. Be VERY good at hiding your 'special time' from your children. If/When they catch you, it'll probably be the most scarring thing in their lives, and also get them to be more 'curious'.
I, thankfully, have never caught my parents having intercourse. And I love them for that.
Don't worry though, there's nothing you have to be afraid of, or go calling doctors for. In fact, when I was younger, I had 2 cousins that were the same age as me which was around 7ish? They were brother and sister, and the sister would always come up to me and tell me things like how her brother kept on showing her his 'lower regions'. But then she'd go and pressure me into doing things with her as well. I'd be slightly confused and curious, so I'd go along with it. But as once we noticed it was wrong we stopped and never ever mentioned it again. Ever. It's sort of like something you'd wish you could go back in time and prevent. But hey, it happens.
But now that I think about it, I was never sexually curious back then. But my two cousins obviously were. And they constantly would say that they saw their parents "lying on top of each other" or "having sex" and "eeew". So that may have lead to the curiosity?
That's another good point. Be VERY good at hiding your 'special time' from your children. If/When they catch you, it'll probably be the most scarring thing in their lives, and also get them to be more 'curious'.
I, thankfully, have never caught my parents having intercourse. And I love them for that.
Personally, I would have to mention this to the parents of the little boy and provide for closer supervision in future when they "play".
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