Hi there. Well I don't care what his other mom says but he is her brother and yes this is inappropriate behavior and I don't feel you are overreacting. He is 27 for God's sake and he should know better. Now I do wonder whether he was in his right mind at the time and perhaps had friends around that used his phone or egged him on to write that but still it does need to be addressed. If your husband won't do it, then I think you should give him a call. Let him know that his "keep this secret" is not secret and ask him what the deal is and why he did it. Now as you know our kids open their mouths and lies fly out and that is more than likely what is going to happen. But he needs to know that you know, his sister is very upset and that this behavior is not to be tolerated. Good luck and let me know how it went.
It's actually VERY common for children in blended families to have sexual behaviors toward each other. This isn't quite blended, but the same dynamic occurred, and he left 10 years ago and has little contact.
I think you should teach your daughter to walk past stuff like this, and move on. This isn't the hill she wants to die on.
This is a half brother, not really in her life, who is inappropriate and kind of crazy.
After she tells him not to contact her, Move on. This guy she already knew was "off" has said something inappropriate to her, evidence that her opinion and instincts are correct, but that's kind of enough attention to give to this incident.
Now you know what he's like, it's all useful information.
Slap him tight. And explain the respest and dignity of a brother-sister relationship.
Or else, he may ask the same question to you as well... Dnt ignore such things helplessly. Go and remind him that you are the mother and also have the right to stop him from making mistakes, at any age of life.
It's normal, He was probably drinking. & any girl who works for EMT is attractive. It's not right but He was probably really drunk.