MY 7 YR OLD SON WITH ADHD HAS HORRIBLE BEHAVIOUR

[chirstinesean]

MY SON IS 7 1/2 YERS OLD HE HAS ADHD.HE DOES TAKE MEDICATION FOR IT. BUT..... WITHIN THE PAST 6 OR SO MONTHS HE HAS BEEN ACTING OUT HIS BEHAVIOUR IS HORRIBLE,BUT WHAT I DON'T UNDERSTAND IS WHEN HE DOES SOMETHING WRONG HE TRUELY BELIEVES THAT HE DID NOTHING WRONG. SOME OF THE THINGS HE DOES ARE.....1) GOT INTO THE PENUT BUTTER AND MADE HANDPRINTS ALL OVER MY CARPET.  2) TOOK MY RED DISH SOAP AND WENT THROUGH MY HOUSE SQUIRTING UP THE WALLS,CARPET.  3) HE'LL GET UP IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NEGHT TO USE THE BATHROOM AND HE'LL JUST URINATE ANYWHERE USUALLY ON MY WALLS/CARPET 4) TODAY HE THREW A ROCK THROUGH MY NEIGHBORS BEDROOM WINDOW 5) HE'S GOTTEN VERY HATEFULLTO HIS 9 YR OLD BROTHER BUT IS NICE TO HIS 2 YR OLD BROTHER. MY HUSBAND HAS ALWAYS BEEN IS HIS FATHER BUT RECIENTLY AGREED TO LET HIM VISIT WITH HIS BIOLOGICAL FATHER & HE LOVES IT.I HOPE THAT WS NOT A BAD DECISION. I HAVE TRIED GROUNDING HIM,TAKEING THINGS AWAY,SPANKING HIS BOTTOM AND NOTHING SEEMS TO BE WORKING. THIS IS MY LAST RESORT CAUSE IT HAS PUT A BIG BIND ON MY RELSTIONSHIP WITH MY HUSBAND AND I. IF ANYONE HAS ANY SUGGESTIONS , COMMENTS , IDEAS TO HELP I WOULD GREATLY APPRECIATE THEM.  THANK YOU

[nyychic]

I will say that while he may love his "bio" daddy it's still really tough to be in this situation.  Maybe he needs some counseling to work through his "issues?" with this it may help him out.  I am a firm believer in a good counselor.  Maybe he can work it out now and not when he's older.  Good luck with him.

[margypops]

Also get him to clean up any mess with you but quietly, dont yell give him some cleaning up stuff  to help you do it,

[margypops]

This is a tough one isnt it,he is however telling you something and you need to listen to it, he is asking for more attention, possibly his brothers get more Has he got his Dad or step dad to play sports and Games with him just the two of them not the others, he is acting out as he feels sad,Spanking doesnt help it reinforces negative patterns he will copy.If things got too desperate and he loves his Biological Dad could he go there more, Very often kids will seek attention through negative ways . Try quietly asking him Why he thinks he does these things , no yelling just gentleness and Hugs .