My 7 1/2 year old son is bright. He does well in academics and is in a grade higher reading group at school. He does reasonably well with sports/playing with a team et cetera. He does not like school however saying that it is long and boring. He has some neighborhood friends but seems to alienate other kids by being simply too eager to play. He has very recently started kicking the ball away from others, or cutting in line in a purposeful way. His temperment at HOME has ALWAYS been intense. He interrupts and blurts out for attention, he is impatient-- he does NOT hit. At school ,he usually does well with instructions however he does sometimes forget to raise his hand or sit still. This does NOT occur daily-- pehaps one day a week.
Though we have worked on manners since he was born, he must be reminded at EVERY meal or social occsion. Though we are consistent with routines, he questions or forgets our patterns such as how one gets ready for bed. He still hypes up at bedtime with his younger brother-- something I thought he would outgrow. We have to say, "NO HYPING" every night. Once we leave the room, he goes to sleep quite well. He hypes with new situtions too such as when a grandparent comes for a visit. At other times however, he can be perfectly calm and focused, building with legos or working on a school project, playing card games et cetera.
A few other odd notes: he occasionally has a touching ritual in which he simply must go back and touch a particlar object-- i see this maybe 3 times per week. He is also very worried,, daily! about fire drills. He is genearlly a worrier though it doesn't seem to interfere with his ability to tryi new things.
My question is simply: What is normal? Our biggest problem is that we feel like we are against a brick wall with at home behavior. We have tried hard to make dietary changes and develop clear consequences for bad behavior. Is this normal for an "intense 7 year old," or is it ADHD, OCD, GAD?