8 year old boy sleeping in bed with mom

[roxy5180]

Is it okay for an 8 year old boy to still be sleeping in bed with his mom?  My boyfriend's son is still sleeping in bed with his mom.  His mom doesn't seem to think there is anything wrong with it.  My boyfriends son ask him if i could sleep in bed with my son and if he and his dad could sleep in the same bed.  Is it against the law?  It almost seems like a form of abuse to me.  I bet money if it was a little girl sleeping in bed with her dad someone would call someone!  

[geets]

I think its not a problem to sleep with your child.

[Alice724]

I know this thread is for kids --- but I what about a 35 year old man who goes on vacations with his mother and they share the same bed. My boyfriend told me it was because the room only had a king. But he and his mom have done this before. I know there is nothing sexual going on. But I am right to think this is not acceptable?

[grammy429]

My 9 year old grandson and my daughter live with me. Two years ago my daughter was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder...She manages to work...but her mood swings are terrible! Miy grandson was diagnosed with OCD and recently with Assenvberger's Syndrome...My daughter was molested by her father, who is now dead, when she was about 9...The problem is she sleeps with him almost everynight..She claims her bed is too messy, but doesn't really make an effort to clean it. I've told her to tuck her son into bed, and when she falls asleep, to go into her own bed, which she does rarely. I'll tell you I'm worried what might be happening in his bedroom...being that she was molested and is highly sexualy herself, I worry that she might be doing things with him, either before or when he's gone to sleep! He's very attached to her and visa versa...she's always kissing him or he gets on top of her and starts kissing her...I'm terribly worried and I've thought of getting a tiny camcorder and record them...My daughter's behavior is unpredictable and you never know when or for what reason she can become verbally abusive...One night she took her son into his bedroom and antagonized and berated him for one hour(believe me I counted for asking his Mom if he coud stay up a little longer,,,that's it! Her actions and emotions are so erradic that I worry for him sexually and emotionally. Naturally he loves her, but he doesn't understand the ramification of her actions..I want to put a hidden camcorder in his room,,,but it's against the law in my state....but I'm almost beside myself with worry for my grandson. If I say anything about her behavior toward him...she starts yelling so loud that it scares him. If I say the least little bit negative thing toward her, she takes it out on HIM and me. I'd think about kicking her out, but I know I'd be puttting him in harms way both   verbally, impatience helping him with his homework and G-d knows what else!
I'm so worried for him,,,with his problems, what will happen to him in the future...what terrible things she will say to destroy what little self esteem he has.

[margypops]

As you said you know there is nothing sexual going on how does it affect you.... why would you think that someone else choosing  to  sleep with their Mom, hurts you in any way, years ago people slept together it is a modern attitude that makes out it is wrong. What about the many countries cant afford to sleep seperatly?best to saty out of his business if it offends you. PS.. this is an old thread dragged up.

[likeike03]

I don't think there is anything wrong with sleeping with your children.  My son is six and he still sleeps with me.  He has his own bedroom, so it's not out of necessity.  There are several reasons he sleeps with me:  I am a single mom, so we both like having the other to cuddle with and talk to before bed.  With football practice and homework, and school, and dinner and baths, there seems to be very few moments of the day where we are simply doing "nothing" and can just enjoy eachother's company like we do when we're laying in the bed before we fall asleep.  In addition, he is actually AFRAID.  I can't feel good about putting him in a bedroom, KNOWING he is downright scared.  What is the harm in letting him sleep by my side.  He also has terrible nightmares.  I too have nightmares and have had them terribly since I was a small child.  I was afraid to sleep and be in my room.  My parents did not allow  me in their bed and so many times, to me, as a young child it literally seemed like torture to just lay there and be scared to death.  There will come a time when our children wont even want to be in the same room as we are.  Enjoy it while you can.  Unless you have something personal to gain from them not sleeping with you, such as getting more sleep, or their desire for not wanting to sleep alone is NOT from fear, then what's the harm?

[mlg1101]

It is all a matter of opinion...all doctors say something different and parents say something different as well. Don't forget all kids are different too!! I sleep with my 6 year old daughter and she is extremely smart and VERY independent!! I don't believe that it has done her any harm at all.  For those that say it's harmful...says who? Where are those facts? studies? proof? Do we just believe something because one doctor or one news article says so??? Ask questions people, don't be sheep. Human kind has done this for years!!