9 year old soiling pants

[arekgb]

I am at the end of my rope.  My nine year old son poops his pants every day.  This has been going on for over two years now.  We have been to doctors, gastroenterologist, and, counselors.  Nothing has helped!  We have used miralax, stool sofeners, and fiber.  We have made hime set on the toilet several times a day.  We have tryed rewards and punishment.  Nothing has worked.  He has been wearing pullups for over year becasue we can not afford to keep buying underwear.  He pretends nothing is out of the ordindary.  He will not clean himself up until someone smells him and tells him to do so.  Now we are having major issues at school because of this.  His father and I are so frustrated with this and just do not know what else to do.  There has been no trauma or abuse.  We have tryed to just say ok our child poops his pants and that is the way it is and just accept it becasue nothing has worked, but that is not working either.  It is causing our whole family much turmoil.  Please does anyone have any suggestions other than what has been posted.

[Josie1954]

Dang, Girl, you are harsh! This child is LUCKY you didn't raise him! And we all get that you NEED us to know you didn't! NORMAL CHILD? Girl, you need to move on out of this situation before you do damage to this child!!!! Your "beloved" dogs? This child needs love, not to be beat because his step-mommy doesn't like him! This is a common problem, as you can see by the posts in this forum. The child needs someone in his life who will help him, not label him. You offend those who are struggling with this problem and those who are attempting to help them. Shame on you!

[Cool_mom_of_4]

I can feel for anyone going through this. I have a son that had encopresis from age six to age 12 and was hospitalized for a bowel obstruction at age 6. He was on Miralax/Glycolax laxative daily (½ of 17mg) and 8-10 glasses of water daily for over 3 years and was told it may be on it for his entire life. What helped was having him sit on the toilet 15 minutes after he finished each meal. He even went to the nurse after lunch for 2 years. He eventually retrained his bowels and became regular at age 12. My now almost 11 year old son has the same problem but much worse than my oldest son had it. It is very frustrating. We did not know about "Soiling Solutions", but it's worth a try. A good daily probiotics should also help. I honestly believe what started it was them not wanting to stop gaming to go to the bathroom, not wanting to use strange bathrooms at school combined with extremely large stools and not wanting to plug a toilet. Both my sons well are adjusted, smart, talented, loving and extremely gifted with IQs over 150. It will eventually pass but not without a huge amount of patience and effort. Good luck.

[lmmgamomma]

sounds like he still has no parental guidance. You just resent the child and should be ashamed. Maybe he has aspergers syndrome. People like you and his other family should never be allowed to be near children.

[twinecho2]

I highly recommend you see a pediatric GI specialist who works with children with encopresis. Your doctor will not necessarily have the experience to help you.

You should get a formal diagnosis that explains she is incontinent and request a 504 Plan from your daughter's school to ensure they provide the necessary modifications and accommodations. This can include assistance with toileting, storing clothing for cleanup, or allowing incontinence pads such as Pull-ups in a classroom setting.

[basaraba]

So tonight I had a major mommy fail with my 8 year old daughter. We have been battling her soiling for what feels like forever. Before I get into today i have to back track to a few days ago when i got a phone call from the school because she had a really bad "accident" and I had o bring her new clothes and wipes to clean her up. I called the Dr. and got her in to see if we could try something new  as far as treatment goes and got shut down. Ugh big surprise. I feel like the Dr has no clue how hard this is for her considering she has been teased in the past at school because she smells.
any way back to tonight, she comes upstairs to get a bedtime story and I get that all to familiar smell, when I calmly ask her to go clean up she starts yelling, I instantly yell beck. I am loosing it and don't know what to do for her anymore. I feel so alone with all of this. I think the worst part is that my family looks at me like I am doing something wrong and they don't get it.

[pizzalady231]

i just wanted to say that i have a son that is 8 who also was almost soiling himself everyday. i was terrified of sending him to school. i managed the problem quite by accident. i put him on the toilet (with his ipad, otherwise he would not stay put) and within 5 minutes, he done his business. I put him on in the afternoon as well. its only when i forget that he soils himself. Its not a cure but i have managed him for the past few years. we call it the poopad. He was diagnosed with a distended bowel when he was 5, but i kept the laxative use at a minimum. hope this helps anyone?