My husband walked by my 7 year old stepson's room the other day, where my SS was supposed to be taking a nap with his friend, and instead saw the friend lying on the bed and my SS was sitting up under the covers, leaning over him. My husband asked what they were doing and they scrambled around and said "nothing", but my husband noticed my SS's friend's pants were unbuttoned. My husband took my SS out of the room and told him to "keep your hands to yourself". Since we weren't sure exactly what had happened and neither boy would say anything, we called the friend's mom and told her what we observed, and also spoke to my SS about inappropriate touching.
The next day, the other child's mom called me and told me that her son told her my SS had "touched my penis". When we confronted my SS, he denied everything but when we told him we knew what happened, my SS finally told us "I licked his penis".
My husband are in total shock and don't know what to do. Is this normal experimentation in 7 year olds, or does this indicate something much more troubling? We asked my SS if he had ever done it before and he said "yes". We asked him if anyone else had ever done it to him and he said "no". He acts very nervous when we question him and it is obvious to us that he is not telling us the whole story.
My SS lives with us and visits his mom on weekends and we are concerned that something might have happened to him over there. There is not much parental supervision at the other household. He just came home from a month-long summer visitation with his mom and his half-brother. His older half-brother (almost 14 years old) has developmental/behavioral problems (failing school, has been arrested for breaking and entering and vandalism) and my SS often goes off and plays with his older brother and his brother's friends.
What do we do?