I don't know what to do now?

[naalheim]

My husband and I have 3 sons ages (8, 6, and 2). The middle son is showing some severe emotional and behavioral issues for many months now that we don't know how to handle. We have tried everything from diet changes and restrictions to thinking possibly it was a sensory thing and trying to work with him that way. We have thought possibly it was a middle child thing so we set aside special time for him every week. He is only getting worse and his outbursts are getting more violent. He does not watch violent movies or play video games. We are not aggressive people either. He is really worrying us now and we can't get him into our family doctor for 2 months. He has many night terrors to where he will get up and talk about killing and running away and things even worse that I can't say. He has no recolection of these events at all. He has been having many what we call "meltdowns" a day, on a bad day. They will be where talks about running away and how he wants to kill himself or us. Then when I try to talk him through them (which takes an hour or more) he feels bad and hates himself horribly bad and ends up hitting himself or his head up againts a wall. It is a horrible cycle. Even writing this out in an email is really hard for me. His behavior has gotton to the point to where I cannot leave the house with the kids and I have been worried for his brothers safety and mine. We walk on eggshells with him anymore. He has hurt his brothers and me on many ocasions and he, compared to me, there is only a foot and 20 pounds difference. He gets tired very easily and seems to have a low blood sugar problem. He is allergic to milk and has been since birth. We have tried every parenting and diciplining thing we can think of and read. We have a great support team of many family members who all agree that he has maybe something physically or emotionally wrong. I know we need to take care of this before it gets worse. Could this possibly be Bi-polar or depression or maybe diabetes? What else is there that could cause a child to act this way? I love him so much and want to get him the best help possible. But I am completely lost and hope this gets me an answer.

[naalheim]

He is not on any meds right now. We have taen him off of all Gluten and dairy and are very carefull with sugars and colorings. We have talked about getting him into an allegist to get any other allergies found out since they are so prominent in our family, and he has red cheeks and ears when he eats or goes outside parts of the time. As for our Dr. situation, we live in a very small town where the doctors are very few. The closest Big city is 3 hours away and driving is very difficult with my children if I can get them into a doctor that has known them and our family history. I do realize that he is not getting enough sleep because of his constant night terrors and bed wetting. Either is mommy though. We have done everything in that way to get him the best nights rest possible without giving meds at this point. He has seemed Diabetic  to most people that know about it. I don't know anything about it though. It does run in our family in a big way on both sides,.I guess we have to either wait or get him into a different doctor. Thanks.

[Focusissues]

Is he on meds of any sort? You noted he was lactose intolerant, has he gone through allergy testing for other trggers? I have to say that waiting for a Dr. apt for two months is obserd to me. I would find another Dr. I'm not sure if that is how the medicare system works where you are but in a situation as serious as this I would fight get him seen sooner. His sleep pattern seems to be getting disturbed too. Lack of sleep for long periods could be affecting his emotional state. There are so many things that could be going on for him though he realy needs to get into see a professional. It could turn out to be something so simple like a food allergy or sleep apnea. Diebetes could be a big trigger here too. If he is Diebetic and not getting the meds that he needs the imbalance could totaly be causing mood swngs.