Kindergarten problems

[Tashinamour]

My son will be six on the 28th of this month and has recently started Kindergarten. The Kindergarten experience has turned into a nightmare for me. We cannot go a day without a negative report from his teacher - he refuses to listen, disrupts the class, takes down things hanging on walls, bulletin boards, etc.., and has just yesterday cut a classmates hair. Each night we discuss with him what is expected of him at school, the importance of respect and take away privileges when he comes home with a negative report. So far, nothing has seemed to work. His response is always "It's too hard to make good decisions." I am at my wit's end. I don't know what else to do. I'm not even sure where I have gone wrong. I am completely overwhelmed. I need some advice. Thank you.

[bella21]

my daughter also just started kindergarden and is acting out.  She has been expressing that she misses me during the day. Your son may be stressed from all the new experiences and responsibilites, and not know how to express it. just a thought that might help.

[jdtm]

His response is always "It's too hard to make good decisions."

I think your son's answer says it all.  Now, I believe you and the school should try to figure out why "it's too hard to make good decisions".  Sensory issues?  Learning Disability?  Socially inept?  Cognitively Behind?  Too Immature?  Attention Getting?  Whatever - you need to find the "reason" - and that will not be easy - before you can find the solution.  Does the school have any resources or people who might be able to help you?  Wish I could be of more help ....

[Shadowweaver]

Have you asked him why it feels hard to make good decisions?  He may be feeling a pressure to "act out" that is not obvious or that may not have a direct source.  Sometimes kids will act out because they like the attention they are getting.  If he gets a lot of attention at home he may feel deprived of attention at school.  Also, if you and your spouse work a lot, he may be trying to get attention at home, even if it is negative.  Another idea is try focusing on the things he does good at school and praising him for those.  The praise may make him want to do the good things more then the bad things.  Just free thinking here, I hope it helps.