Lets get back to helping parents

[UnsureMS]

Hello parents,

This forum no matter what it seems like lately is for posters to get advice when they are unsure what to do for their children. Or just want to get another opinion. I think it is time for the forum to get back to what it was meant for. I have an 8 yr old lil boy and 11 yr old lil girl. They aren't mine natrually but I consider them my own. Both are doing well in school lately and truly are making me proud.

So, at the moment I have no questions but want parents to get back to asking for help. My children are my world and almost broke my heart on Mother's Day when I realized they don't consider me a mother figure. Yet I realized they are not to blame for that. They love me they come to me for advice and know that  I help take care of them. That is all I need I decided.

To all step parents I know it's hard at times, but never think you don't count. You are a huge part of those children's lives. And you help mold them into who they become.

May God Bless all,

Kimberly

[specialmom]

Yes, sounds like an important role you play.  I'm sure they realize it.  Hope the day was overall nice for you.  peace

[UnsureMS]

You know I have two step dads and no one could ever replace them. I feel they were more of fathers to me then my real dad. I know the mother played a significant role in why the kids don't see me as a mother figure. They both did at one point but their mother got upset at this concept of I can be a step mommy to her babies.

The little boy did later tell me happy Mother's Day. But our 11 yr old who has grown up hearing her moms dislike for me told him not to say that to me. Her father tried to explain why it was ok. That just didn't matter to her. Later at church the pastor spoke of the importance of step moms as well as regular moms. This opened my daughters eyes. She told me she loved me and happy Mother's Day. That is why I put the kids were not to blame.

I am not looking to take their moms place but I want recognition as their step mom. I have been with their father since before the little boy was even born. I got with him while she was three months pregnant. And since then have taken care of them when they had their tonsils out. I have been there when the little girl needed a shoulder to cry on. I have fed them and cared for them as my own. I am a Mom.

[specialmom]

Kids have adults that play different roles in their life and many people can be important to them.  While that might have stung that they don't perceive you as a mother figure---  I'm glad you realize that they do love and care for you.  I think that sometimes it is hard for kids or maybe awkward is a better word.  I had a step mother.  I had a mother.  my step mother was different than my mom but still an important person to me.  

So, keep your chin up and know that you are indeed important to them.  peace